I posted before about the tricky relationship between me and my dad. My mum and dad split up when I was about 11 and my dad remarried. For some reason my step mum hates me. She never visits and is we visit she makes sure she's out. My dad is obsessed with his step grandchildren and it's all he talks about. He sees me and his grandchildren about twice a year but then just talks about how wonderful the step GC are. There's more to it than that but I'll keep the background short.
It all came to a head before Christmas when we spoke about meeting up to swap gifts but he only had one available weekend he could do in the whole of November and December as all the other days he was with his step GC or visiting deceased relatives graves. That one weekend we were away but were free every other. He just wouldn't meet us too see his grandchildren. There was no argument it just wasn't happening. This really annoyed me.
Since then we haven't spoken. We text on boxing day and that's it. He hasn't tried to call and I haven't tried to call. He didn't contact in my daughter's birthday. I don't think he knows I'm cross with him it's just that he doesn't make the effort so will be waiting for me to phone.
The thing is. He is old and not in good health. I do feel bad but I just get so depressed and angry with him. He never asks about the children. If he sees them he just moans that their rude and criticizes my parenting (both have ASD). He can't be bothered to remember their names or birthdays. He refuses to acknowledge my husband. He just rude!
Aibu
Should I make contact?