Move or not move

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It's a bit of a long story
Currently retraining. The deal is the company pay for it and I stay for 18 months. Currently I live in area A.
Area A is very diverse and exciting, busy, ok public transport, ok schools, children very happy in school. Family all live locally. We live in a lovely house which is affordable but neighbours are awful and I can never relax.
I work in area B twenty miles away. Area B is much more rural, terrible links to area A, but much cheaper. Much less diverse. Schools are better and less oversubscribed.
The traffic is much, much heavier going from B to A, so going from A- B as I do currently is much much better, there's about an hours difference between the two directions of travel.
Current arrangement of commuting is tiring me out and I'm stressed a lot. Not only am I learning a new role, I have the commute, petrol costs and stress of getting back in time.
I am a single parent of two and do all drop offs and pick ups. I am constantly worried about getting back on time for after school club (which shuts at 6). We're all unhappy with how much time we spend out of the home. We all get back and it's just straight into dinner, bath, reading, bath. Weekends I just don't want to do anything that involves driving and even going to the park is exhausting.
There is no option to retrain in area a. My earning potential will double/ triple after the 18 months and I could even go part time! This will be essential going forward as my child has SEN and I don't think she will be able to go to secondary full time.
I've been super skint for their whole life so it will be a relief to not be trying to get the next slightly better paid admin job. However at the moment due to retraining wage and the petrol fees, I'm barely making ends meet living in area a. I am a homeowner and my mortgage has gone up.
Pros of moving
Cheaper housing
Less commuting
Better choice of secondary
Can dedicate more time to course rather than panicking about getting back in time
Could cycle to work (am now fat due to driving)
Guarantee of job forever with company
Cons
Will never get back into area a due to costs
Miss diversity and choice of cuisines
Children will not grow up in a city
EHCP in progress, will mess that up if we switch to another local authority
More driving in general for leisure
Far from family/ older relatives
Children will miss school friends

Is there a temporary option? Renting out mine and renting property in area B? Trouble is we have a cat. Don't want to be a landlady! Don't need more stress.
DC's dad is minimally involved.

I think I would move. I was a SENCO and we often had children who were in the process of applying for an EHCP move to our area. If the application hasn't gone in yet, then the SENCO at the new school can just use the reports and assessments that have been done at the previous school. If the EHCP is being considered by the LA, then that LA will award it, and the new LA will honour it.

My only concern would be being further away from family.

@haveacat yeah we're at the educational psychologist part, everything else has been done so I'll probably wait to hear before deciding for good

Anyone else? Starting to think it's too badly written!

I would move. But I'm happy with rural life, so it's a no brainer for me. Cheaper, quieter, no commute, better school.

I wouldn't trade that for 'diversity', 'city' or even 'closer to family' - but then my family aren't great.

@Hatty65 but I'm sort of doing it the wrong way round, smaller kids are happier in the countryside. Older kids want access to the city, gigs, pubs, clubs etc, which is what we have now

Obviously only you know your situation. If your DD is SEN and won't be able to attend full time secondary school is she likely to be comfortable clubbing, etc in a city? Even if you stay in one? I get what you are saying, but not all teens want city life, or feel confident navigating it.

Mine have been happy enough hanging out with mates in local pubs etc. The nearest nightclub is about 15 miles and they do drive it occasionally - or even head off to nearest city an hour or so away if there's something worth bothering. DS went to see Arctic Monkeys last year - and gigs generally mean travel anyway. They were happy enough in their teens and headed off to uni cities at 18.