Discrimination or am I overreacting?

[Engineeringmum1]

I’m hoping that everyone here can help give me clarity and perhaps some advice.

I have been in discussions about moving departments at work that may involve more time in the office and slightly longer days, which I am ok with. I feel I have been actively discouraged from doing this as in their words ‘I won’t be home as much or have as much family time’

During the process of these discussions, I happened to come across an email someone had written, stating that ‘I am looking to move and am very talented however I will probably have kids soon’.

I got married last year and have a DSD 10. My husband does all school pick ups drop offs etc and when she is with us he is the primary carer, I help with homework, play with her, cook etc but she is not reliant on my care and husband can do all of that if I am not there.

AIBU in feeling discriminated against at work? I feel that because I’m a women of childbearing age I’m being passed over for men around the same age. If I’m not, any advice on how to move forward?

Any discussion about your reproductive health is discrimination.

Call ACAs and get in touch with Pregnant and Screwed. And print the email.

Yes that is discrimination and inappropriate

Completely discriminatory. Be clear about what you want out of any complaint you might make.

Woah! Blatant. Where/how did you get hold if the email? Do get professional advice though to see how to best proceed.

@MandyMotherOfBrian someone had printed it out and I caught sight of it in a meeting. It wasn’t sent to me.

I would be looking for work elsewhere. If they think it's ok to put into an email. I dread to think about what other unconscious bias you are up against

I made up my mind about not staying on at my last job when my supervisor came out of a job interview saying X wasn't suitable listing a couple of reasons then added plus she might want another child

I have worked in a place where I was denied first aid based on my gender. I quit the following day. I couldn't trust them with my safety. You have to trust that your employer is on your side and if they are making judgements of you based on your age, gender and marital status they don't deserve your good work.

Blatant discrimination. Do you have a copy of the email you saw as evidence?

Screenshot the message that talks about the fact you will 'probably have kids soon'. Look for any others that reference your fertility/potential reproduction. This is fully discrimination.
They are already discriminating by talking about 'family' time. You know they would never ever say that to a man. If you already had 15 kids and were expecting triplets it's none of their damn business.
Have you actually been turned down for this new role, or not yet? I guess see where that leads. But they have broken employment law already so speak to Acas, or your union if you have one.
Are there any other women you could speak to to see if there's more evidence of this elsewhere in the business? It could be affecting many people who are too scared to speak out.