To raise it with school?

[Cherrybonbon95]

My DD started reception in September and so far has had 8 accident forms come through. For various different injuries but all include a fall. She is regularly telling me she is being pushed over in the playground. I’m started to think she is being picked on. She said this morning ‘mummy, why does everyone laugh at me’. She is the youngest in her year and also the smallest. I did speak to school and they seemed to brush over it and said they would keep an eye but it keeps happening. 2 accidents in the same week this week, including a bruised/bump to the head and now an injury to her tongue after a fall. What would you do?

8 individual accidents since September isn’t that many so that in itself wouldn’t bother me.

but if she is saying things that are concerning you let school know so they can keep an eye on things. If she can tell you specific names (without you pushing her of course) then that will help school be able to monitor.

I strongly disagree, DD12 didn't have 8 accidents in her whole time at primary school and she was there from Nursery to Y6!

Not sure what to suggest @Cherrybonbon95 but to me, 8 since September seems like a lot

I am on playground duty 3 times a week and have witnessed many falls in the playground where one says the other pushed them when I saw the whole incident and they just bumped into each other quite innocently. Some children are vehement in their insistence and if I hadn't seen it I would have believed them. Your daughter may well believe she was pushed over. That's not to say that's what happened.

Often if a child is the youngest in the class they are not able for the boisterous play of some older kids. It may not be deliberate but more her struggling to keep up. Do you notice her falling say, at the park or in the garden? As a teacher l would think that amount of falls is a lot so asking to speak to the teacher to see if they have any idea what's happening would be useful. Also other children may be falling but because they are a bit older they may not be even mentioning it to the teacher. As she is a bit young even little falls may be becoming a big thing. Are the injuries slight or has anything major happened? Is she generally happy in school?

@Cherrybonbon95

I would continue to follow up with the school.
But I would also consider eye tests and ear tests as well.

It used to be a running joke between me and the reception teacher when I was presented with my daily accident report (not kidding) from DD2. So 8 since September seems like barely anything to me. However if she’s making statements that sound like she’s being picked on then you should raise it with the school

Thank you.

She has said other children are telling others to push her too and then laughing

8 accidents wouldn't ring alarm bells for me but what she has said would. I'd ask to speak to the teacher to share my concerns and if that wasn't taken seriously then I'd go to the head. It could be nothing it could be something.

My son had about 8 accident reports in his whole time at primary school so that would worry me. Due to her saying that definitely speak to them again

Think it depends on the child.

I wouldn't bay an eyelid at 8 accidents in a week for ds. 🤣

You need to email the school and say DD is informing you these aren't accidents but incidents of being pushed over and it needs to stop.

Dd1 had one accident in primary, one incident in secondary.
Dd2 had, on average a injured form coming about one a week. Normally no other sign of injury though.
Ds had more. He even had two bumped head notes within an hour once.

The difference was a mixture of how they played - dd1 was much more sit down and pick daisies.
But also how much fuss they made. Dd1 didn't like any fuss so would pick herself up and carry on. Dd2 has always been a drama queen over anything, so the slightest bump and she'd be queueing for medical.
Ds was more like dd1 but much more inclined to find out what happened if he strapped two tennis balls to his feet and jumped or similar... So was noticed. 🙄

LOL, 8 accidents in a day wouldn't surprise me at one point for DD - I swear she could fall over while standing still.

However, OP, if your DD is telling you that people are pushing her you should raise it with the school - even if it's part of a game, the other children need to be aware that they are being too boisterous.

🤣🤣🤣

Yes my ds is the kid that can stand in an empty room whilst the walls and floors beat him up

I was going to say 8 incidents since September is nothing because my son once got 2 bump letters in the same playtime but your update is highly worrying and needs reporting.

I got at least one accident form a week when my kids were in Reception to Year 2. One of my daughters got 3 accident forms on one day! 🙈 Kids do run around like lunatics in the playground so there is a lot of tripping, crashing into each other, balls hitting heads etc. So that part I wouldn’t be at all worried about.

But if your daughter is saying that people are regularly being unkind to her then I would definitely ask to speak to the Teacher about this.

She has said other children are telling others to push her too and then laughing

Is she telling an adult when people are pushing her/laughing at her? I mean, obviously she’s telling an adult she’s hurt (as she has an accident note) but is she telling them the details of what actually happened?

I would encourage her to do so, then they will get a good picture of what’s going on.

From your op no I'd not be overly worried but be curious to know if the kids running about are crossing areas kids not running about are playing. but from your update then definitely raise that with the school sounds like bullying

8 accidents for some kids mine for example would be perfectly fine. However the comments she has made about laughed at and being pushed are not accidents. Definitely speak to the school again and insist on a solution. Your dd deserves to feel safe.

If you suspect bullying from what she said I would ask her an open question about what's happened (no leading questions), write down what she says and ask to speak to the teacher.