DD 9 is friends with a v manipulative, controlling friend who she sometimes wants to be friends with, sometimes doesn’t. A real frienemies situation. Anyway she’s invited dd around for a sleepover which has been agreed by both me and other mum but now everytime dd does something this child doesn’t like she threatens to cancel. (Like not responding quickly enough in Roblox or going to drama club or swimming and therefore not responding because she’s busy) she threatens her multiple times a day with this as far as I can see.
Dd is very excited to go as it’s her first sleepover other than with family (or friends to us) but I’ve already been afraid things will go pear shaped and we’ll have to collect her at midnight or something.
I feel so uncomfortable that this child is threatening mine. I don’t want her to go there now knowing this child might reject her whilst there. I’m tempted to call the whole thing off but don’t want dd to be punished for something she hasn’t done.
dd is adhd and ASD. And on the whole quite confident - she has many other friends but she doesn’t want to upset this friend.
aibu just to say to the mum it’s cancelled because I don’t want dd threatened? How should I phrase it?