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Work appraisal AIBU

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HaddockMornay · 14/03/2024 19:55

NC for outing reasons.

AIBU for being disgruntled about my recent work appraisal?

Long story but trying to cut it short:

I've worked for my boss for 9+ years. I started on 5 hours a week, when the company was 3 people including me. As the company has grown, so have my work hours and I now do 24 hours a week. The company is now 12 people.

For the first 7 or 8 years of employment I worked all the time from home.

Then boss rented an office and I have been asked to go into the office for 1 day a week increasing to 2 days a week. All agreed with me, all fine, I've adjusted to this as asked.

Earlier this year my mother died. I took 1.5 days off work immediately after. Then I had three weeks of being heavily involved in booking and arranging her funeral and everything that that entails. So there were a few days when I was due in the office when I asked to have a couple of hours at home for zoom calls with the celebrant, booking flowers and catering etc. So I was working but taking a couple of hours off for funeral arrangements, then coming in to the office later. I reckon I took 3 or 4 hours out for this maximum.

He emailed and asked me to have my annual appraisal on X date. I replied - I know I told you this, but X date is actually my mother's funeral. He replied, yes sorry, let's have it the day after.

So I was back to work as usual the day after my mother's funeral. He chose this time to say he preferred me to do all my office hours in the office, not bits and pieces at home as I deemed fit!

He also said he was over-paying me. I said "Oh really? I'm surprised to hear that, how much are you over-paying me?". His answer - £150 per year. PER YEAR!

Sorry it's long, but would this fuck you right off as it has me?

OP posts:
Geebray · 14/03/2024 19:57

That would fuck me right off, and I would be looking for another job.

I have employees, and I would never treat them like that.

HaddockMornay · 14/03/2024 20:11

I don't know what fucks me off more. His hopeless attitude about the fact that my Mum had just died (bearing in mind I've been with the company more than 9 years and he knows I'm not a skiver). I've read threads on here where people think it's reasonable to take 6 months off after the death of a parent!

Or the fucking. petty. mentioning. of. the. £150. per. year!!

He's in charge of the pay - if you made a mistake then suck it the fuck up.

I think it's the pay thing more, tbh.

OP posts:
HaddockMornay · 14/03/2024 20:13

Wondering if I should go into work with £150 cash in an envelope and give it to him, just to be massively passive aggressive.

OP posts:
Geebray · 14/03/2024 20:15

Both of those issues would have me looking for another job.

We are a team, here. If someone needs emotional time off, they get it.

And as for the £12.50 per month "overpaying"? Fuck off. Then fuck off some more. Then when you get there, fuck off again.

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