To think this is staff exclusion at work?

[MelMar1]

So someone is retiring next month. A member of staff has organised a trip away to mark the retirement. I heard that a group chat had been set up about it, with only some staff invited. It’s a mix of staff from what I hear- some worked with the retiree for years, some more recent. Apparently members of senior management are in the chat too. Would you call this exclusion? As some staff were not asked? I mean I’m not going anyway, it just got me thinking! AIBU?

Given they are retiring so probably don't care, what do you want to do?
I hate all this, you can't have your own friends from work, you have to be friends with everyone malarkey.

Meant to add- the person retiring doesn’t know about any of this- it’s a surprise.

I'm assuming that its a group chat for those who are going on the trip, in which case I wouldn't expect anyone not going to be included. YABU.

If you mean that not everyone has been invited on the trip, then again, I would only expect close(ish) colleagues to be invited rather than everyone,

No, it’s some friends going away. Not all colleagues are friends. And they don’t have to be.

yeah, it’s like being in infant school and having to invite the whole class to your party yet some are not your friends just class mates.

colleagues are not always friends. Why should everyone be invited on a weekend away?

By definition it is excluding some people. You appear to be implying exclusion has some special additional weighty significance?

I guess because some people who were asked wouldn’t be close to the person retiring. And only one person decided who to ask.. but good to see perspectives on it anyway. It’s no skin off my back; it was being discussed and some people are hurt. So I threw it out there for some general opinion is all.

I would suggest that the hurt people go and let someone who is going know that if there are any spaces they would be interested in going.as they are friends with the retiree.

Unless this is being paid for by the company or is happening in work time, then this is a group of friends who are going away together. You don’t really get to decide how friendly they are with each other, maybe the trip is to a place that some of them have always wanted to go, or they share a common interest or whatever. Are people not allowed to make friends at work?