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Would you allow a FaceTime?

3 replies

woodenleg · 13/03/2024 22:24

Between a father and son (aged 5)

Dad has been abusive towards mum and they separated 6 months ago. Police involvement.

Dad has been in and out of sons like for the last 6 months. He has not seen his son for weeks at a time.

Dad wants to have son for the day after 7 weeks of no contact - dad cancelled the last 2 visits. He blamed his mental health for this.

Mum said no to the day visit but instead offered to meet up at a park and so shirt but frequent visits in order to build contact back up.

Dad then sent some abusive messages back to mum and was extremely angry that he was refused his daily visit.

Dad now wants to FaceTime son but there has been nothing set up in terms of contact. Mum is worried that a FaceTime may upset her son even more as she can't give him any answers as to when or if he will see his father.

Mum is being supported by social services, her solicitor, her therapist, her son's school and her domestic abuse worker who all say she is doing the right thing by offering short visits.

Son is also possibly on the autism spectrum and under assessment.

Would you allow a FaceTime in these circumstances?

OP posts:
Mikkismum · 13/03/2024 23:50

Given all the people already involved supporting mum, I think they would be better placed to advise her about this.
Personally I wouldn't be offering to meet an abusive ex-partner in the park. Maybe a contact centre would be a better arrangement to start with.

Ponoka7 · 13/03/2024 23:54

Mum should have phoned the SW and possibly the abuse worker. Contact should be stopped, the abuse is ongoing and more is needed to be known about the ex MH episodes.

WhateverMate · 13/03/2024 23:55

Mum needs the professionals who are already involved to help her solve this, not Mumsnet.

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