Husband doesn’t make me feel cared for

[Mum8929]

Ever since becoming pregnant two years ago I’ve slowly felt more and more disappointed in my husband. We planned the pregnancy but when it happened he didn’t seem over excited, he didn’t plan for anything for the baby I did all the research and got us to buy everything. Then for the first year I felt so alone. I moved to his country and have no family here, I’ve worked hard to make friends but I don’t feel like he spends a lot of time helping with our child. I should specify I feel like he takes no initiate and I have to nag him all the time. I’m just so fed up and feel alone.

I hear you!

There’s so many stories on here of men who just don’t have the same connection to their children as the mums do (I’m sure there’s examples the other way round too!).

My DH was amazing with our first, but us like that with our second, it’s as though he’s just switched off - do I know a bit of how you feel.

From my experience though, it can get better. Now that my youngest is a little older and can stand up for herself, he gets more engaged.

The baby years are just hard work and mums get a head start in having a physical connection before baby is born. Some men take a while to catch up!

That doesn’t excuse his behaviour, but hopefully gives you hope that you’re progressing through the toddler years and things could start to improve soon.

I would tell him firmly that he needs to step up or get a divorce and you move back to your country.

This is no way to live.

Is he also lazy in the house with housework?