Are my expectations too high here?

[pinktulips87]

Hi I'm wondering if I'm BU here or if I've night expectations.
I've been ill since Friday (possibly viral) however I started to feel a bit better on Sunday evening. My husband was off over the weekend and basically did a lot to allow me rest.
This morning I work up with pain in my joints, (fingers, wrists and knees) things like pulling up trousers, doing buttons up, lifting a pot/kettle or opening a bottle im struggling to do as my hand feels like I've no power and when I do do these tasks I'm in pain. Even walking up and down steps is hurting. My throat also feels like I'm swallowing glass.
My oldest dc has been helping me with the younger dc but I can't help feeling resentful that my husband didn't work from home today or even check in on me knowing I'm unwell. He knew I was ringing my GP today for an appointment but told me if I felt bad enough I'd be better off going to A and E but there is a 48 hour wait and he'd come home if I needed to go in.
The GP can't see me but has offered to call me tomorrow.
It's very unusual for me to be this unwell I usually plough through most things. I'm very upset and worried.

YANBU about your husband, he should have called to check you’re ok.

But would you really go to A&E because you feel unwell? (Unless you think it could be neurological?)

@EmilyTjP i genuinely don't know. We don't like in uk so don't have 101 services here and GPs here are still doing phone consultations.

It sounds like your dh expected you to update him if you were feeling so poorly you couldn’t cope, and then he’d come home.

I wouldn’t expect my dh to wfh or check in with me during a busy working day if I had a virus unless the symptoms appeared life-threatening (severe shortness of breath, meningitis or sepsis symptoms etc). I’d be pleasantly surprised if he sent me a “how are you” sms halfway through the day. I’m a capable adult and he’s not the type to mollycoddle. I would be entirely unsurprised if he didn’t text me and say “I’ll get ready meals on the way home from work - do you need pills while I’m in the supermarket.” My dh’s love language is definitely doing practical things not providing tea and sympathy!

I think he should have checked on you, but I don't think he should have WFH unless he has a really long commute or something.

He did say he would come home if you needed him to? I think that's okay.

To be honest, I wouldn’t expect DH to work from home because I am feeling unwell. He would be downstairs and me in bed anyway.

You're both unreasonable.

You for expecting he works from home when you haven't directly asked him to, and him for not checking in on you in his lunch break.