Posting here for clarity as feel I’m too involved to have a fair opinion. For context I am an adult with my own family.
A few years ago, my parents fell out with one member of the extended family. This had probably been a long time coming for both of them, and wasn’t because of one major thing but lots of little things over a long period of time (and two people being too similar and not listening to each others sides!). I don’t think either party were particularly at fault and this falling out did not involve me in anyway.
My parents felt very strongly that I should cut contact with this member of the extended family, although I did not agree. This caused a lot of upset between us, and after A LOT of back of forth, I reluctantly agreed to not see them for a short period of time (although in hindsight we didn’t specify for how long) whilst my parents ‘dealt’ with what had happened. I was assured that if I did this, there would be no other issues for us as a family unit (for background, my parents are quite sensitive and every few months we get a message about something we have done to upset them). This did not happen, and we have continued to receive messages about things we have done wrong (but that is a separate issue I know).
I now feel that it is time for me to get back into contact with this member of extended family. I want to have a relationship with them, and also it is just awkward not seeing them eg when we meet up with other extended family they are basically excluded.
My parents however are outraged that I am considering this, and I feel this is going to cause a huge issue. I want to have a relationship with my parents, and am not expecting them to speak to or see this member of family.
AIBU - to see a member of extended family that my parents have fallen out with?