DH and drugs

[Goubear]

Hi everyone,

Long story short, I need a rant!
Me and my husband know each other for a very long time, we were together for 7 years then split up for 5 years and got back with each other 3 years ago. He was using drugs (mainly cocaine and weed) before we got back together regularly, I said that if he wants to get back together he needs to stop the class A drugs (I didn't mind weed so much) he agreed, it was hard for him but I was so proud that he managed to get away from his old life, 6 months later I got pregnant, we got married last year and he is a great dad. We were visiting family and were drinking a little bit & he used this situation to confess that he used the class A drug twice during our "new" relationship even though he promised me that he wouldn't. I feel cheated and if I would have known I wouldn't have married him at all as I grew up around a dad who abused drugs..this is not the first time he lied about something and thinks it isn't a big deal as it didn't directly affect me which is complete bs. I just don't feel like I can trust him anymore and I feel angry about it & belittled..anyone with a similar experience or advice? Am I overreacting?

He was testing the water and i think he has probably used way more than twice.

Your reaction now will determine what happens next.

I would honestly ask him to move out whilst you consider the relationship and the fact he has been lying to your face.

And no he is not a good dad if he is taking drugs.

I will bet my house on it that if you let this go...this wont be the last time it rears its head - although he will get better and keeping it a secret

@Minkyfalinkinky Thank you, I feel in my heart that I should end this now as it is unacceptable and he is a very good manipulator..

I agree you should end it now.

If you condone illegal drug taking, you are condoning the murders and other harm that comes from the trade. I don't want any more young largely black men stabbed, nor Mexican deaths, for example.

I also would see this as totally unacceptable and would be asking for him to leave.

Personally I think if you’re a single adult, independent, and you want to take drugs then okay whatever, up to you to accept the risks. But I think when you have children it’s just never worth the risk. Especially when he knew your views on drug taking and did it anyway- no thanks. I’d also bet that it’s been a lot more than twice and if you haven’t been able to notice it then you would just have to take his word for it in future if he promises not to take it again.

I’d be walking away over this