Household chores

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Hey ladies I need advice. So my fiancé and I are talking and he wants me to remind him to clean the bathroom/kitchen. Now he only works 2 days a week and he's always home. If he sees something needs to be cleaned he doesn't do it. I have to ask. Just recently I decided that I would see how long he'll go before cleaning the bathroom. I eventually gave in and did it myself. I'm trying to explain to him that we both see things need to be done. And instead of knocking it out I have to ask/remind him.

Like am I be unreasonable for not wanting to ask for those things??

Reminders on his phone?!?!?! Has he just started year 7 and still transitioning?

Yeah I wouldn't date someone like this let alone build a life and financial future together.

How old is he??

How about living separately but staying in a relationship then he can clean his own bathroom whenever he feels like it, hoping you earn enough to live on your own.

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He said that won't work for him

I bet it won’t work for him OP 😆 He’s got a cushy number living with you.

You need to leave this man (or chuck him out) before you go any further!
Do not marry this man.

Don't you have a mind of your own? It doesn't matter if it won't work for him it may work for you as a couple

How can he think there's any problems when you are picking up all the slack and not holding him accountable. Don't marry him. You'll be his skivvy with a miserable life

He said that won't work for him

What works for you though?

He's taking you for a mug. There are better men out there, I promise you!

I despair that women still think they only deserve these workshy, lazy cocklodgers.

Why have you given all the power to him, OP?

I just asked him to leave. I'm honestly tired and it hurts

this is not a serious topic, is it? Throw the lazy loser back. Oh, and you need to shut up so you don't argue? Abusive as well.

I just asked him to leave. I'm honestly tired and it hurts

It might not feel like it right now but your life just got a million times less stressful.

I know it will I just have to keep pushing.

Ok, at least he was honest with you about preferring to live together. But does he earn enough on those 2 days a week to pay his equal share of rent/mortgage/bills/food?

I pay all the bills he may buy a couple cleaning supplies.

Reading this back it a little tough. Things were not always like this. But it has been rocky for a couple months I have tried to be supportive and help in anyway I can. But I also get tired from work. So I kinda want him to give the same effort as I do. And right now it's not happening.

Get a whiteboard for your kitchen with the list of daily task that need doing.

Take out the bin
hoover bedrooms
clean downstairs bathroom

when they’re there in front of him he’s got no excuse.

Oh, how embarrassing. Never pay to have a parasitic boyfriend.

Avoid dating entirely, you need to do extensive work on your standards before going near another bloke. You risk being made a complete fool of again, by a different one.

I have whiteboards all over. To remind me of low supplies , bills etc.

Ah, so that's why living separately 'won't work' for him, he may have to pay his own bills, poor lamb,