to think that on Mothers Day

[GrannyNannyMagratandGreebo]

I shouldn't have to race round doing flippng housework?

fwiw, I am currently not working and so do most 98% of the housework.
I don't mind doing most of it but almost all of it? dp works full time and I appreciate that. However, when he say he's bored and got nothing to do at work and then comes home and slouches on the settee watching feckin cricket/golf/football and thinks that doing 50% ish of the cooking and 30% ish of the washing up is doing his fair share....
well, I'm very frustrated because we've chatted about it before.
A few times.

Then he wonders why I put my arms in the air when he comes in from the garden, doing something he wanted to do, asking me if the washing on the airer (he is standing immediately in front of and much closer to) is dry

Organise the housework so you don't have much to do on any Sunday. Dh can help out in the evenings and on Saturday but most of the stuff can get done during the week.

So? What housework is so urgent on a Sunday it can't wait until Monday, if you're not working and don't want to do it on Mothers Day?

What was so urgent that it couldn't have waited until Monday? Are you including putting out a raging house fire as house work?

I’m a single parent working FT and so have to do all of the housework myself.

But even I didn’t do any housework on Mother’s Day.

I personally did it all the day before and anything else was left until the next day.

I would have told him to sort it out himself if he needs it, as it’s your day off.

I do think if you’re not working then it’s your responsibility but not on days like Mother’s Day or your birthday.

Thank you very much, @NeedtostopusingMNsomuch that's exactly it.

It's not me infantilising him, @Namenamchange it's him treating me like a servant. He's quite willing to do housework if he thinks his brothers will be visiting and will actually do it without being asked because shock horror he's a grown man who can see what needs doing.

Fwiw, I have fibro, arthritis, I am chronically fatigued and a possible slipped disc; and I have had several crashes lately, all of which have been exacerbated by stress.

@nc42day it was frustration - he was much closer to the airer (I was in the kitchen at the time). Have a look at weaponised incompetence.

Oh and I'm also menopausal with possible adhd (that's also exacerbating everything).

It was one day wwherei didn't want to have to do anything.

dp was seemingly reluctant* *to do anything because it was my daughter that was visiting, not his son.