A family member is in hospital awaiting surgery. His siblings, plus extended family such as myself are all included on emails as to how things are proceeding.
That family member has over recent years stopped communicating with his son and has recently changed their Will removing the Son as a beneficiary. There are grandchildren involved who sadly they also have no contact with.
The reasoning given is they dislike his partner. I haven't had great interactions with the partner either, but I don't allow it to affect my relationship with my family member.
The son has a sibling. According to the son, his sibling has stolen money from their parents plus owes a sizable amount that hasnt been re-paid.
The sibling is known for going through their parents documents and investments, monitoring the parents email accounts, and speaking negatively of other family members, including their own offspring to the parents.
Basically the hospitalised family member dislikes everyone in their immediate family except that one offspring....
the son has shown me copies of the many times he has sent texts and calls. The hospitalised family member says they haven't been in touch apart briefly once a year and I can see those replies in the copies so I know the Son's calls and texts are going through.
the hospitalised family member does not want the son to know they are in hospital and has emailed me requesting I do not pass on the information.
As I'm related to all of them, and they all know I talk to everyone, I don't see it as being my secret to keep from the son, and if it had been my parents, I would hope my extended family would keep me up to date.
IABU for wanting to keep son up to date?