Was I being oversensitve?

[FabAbbie]

I came off a WhatsApp group of acquaintances, not friends, yesterday, as one of them is posting photos of my nasty ex and it's triggering for me. Now, I've absolutely no problem with this person posting the photo or of them being friends, but it's my issue, just don't want to see reminders of him. I feel relieved to be off it now. It was just a group really for general chat only, so I'm not missing out by leaving.

A friend of mine thinks I must be oversensitve - am I?

AIBU - I should have stayed on it?
AINBU - I did right to leave.

Of course you did the right thing to leave. It’s called having boundaries.

Why is this person your friend?

You did the right thing - you feeling relieved just proves it. Ignore comments to the contrary, your friend isn't in the situation.

Thank you. I doubt myself a lot over these sort of things!

A friend doesn't really do that, especially if they know he circumstances.

I think you are right leave and it's a pity the rest of the group didn't pull her up on her behaviour.

You're allowed to remove yourself from any situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, especially if it doesn't bring you anything particularly positive otherwise.

You don't have to justify yourself to anyone.

It's up to you. If you don't want to see his face then so be it.

I'd say your friend lacks quite a lot of sensitivity, to be honest.

You are allowed to not want to see photos of your nasty ex. I'm not in a family WhatsApp because I don't speak to my DSis and I don't want to see photos of her or hear about how she's getting on. I'm allowed to feel that way.

Your 'friend' sounds judgemental and tactless - who made them the 'sensitivity' monitor? Are people only allowed to feel what they deem to be acceptable? And why would they feel they had the right to tell you that? It's not their call.

Your feelings are your feelings. They aren’t wrong. It sounds like you dealt with it in a mature quiet manner rather than kicking off and making a scene. If the person in question who sent the photos calls you up on it all you have to say is that it is nothing personal but you were just protecting yourself.

Well don't
Your judgement is spot on

No, I didn't make any scene - as I said, they're all entitled to be friends/ post pictures, I just don't want to be a part of it. Thanks for all the positive feedback, good to know I didn't overreact.

You didn't. I can't understand how this friend doesn't see that this is an issue for you.

WhatsApp groups are so annoying I had someone fall out with me over me leaving their boring WhatsApp group - why do people think we have to be in these indefinitely? And if you just mute them then they seeing you've got the other messages that you might need to see like an invite.

I'm not a big fan of them either but I've never felt the need to exit the group - until now.

I decided to mute one a couple of years ago, but I still ended up checking it so eventually exited it.