To say I've had a lovely mother's day

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My children (9 months and 2.9 months) "bought" me some wine, jelly babies and chocolate. I got a card from each of them. My partner has taken them both to soft play and the older one swimming, I've taken them both around the park with the dog and had a bath. No need to go out for a meal, no drama over who to see. It's been great. Aibu to say that there's no need for drama?

You’re right - no need for drama. And if only I could become invisible for next Mother’s Day then I’m sure my partner will allow it to go smoothly.
Having a nice day is great but making such a smug statement is not.

Hey, if you've had a nice day, enjoy it. No reason not to share that. I haven't been made a fuss of today, but why should I resent that another mother has? Lovely that you feel good about your day 😊

Honestly good for you. You had the low key day that presumably you wanted. You didn't see his mum or yours.

Shock horror but some of us want to do mother's day in a different way. I had a lovely day too but I had breakfast made by dh, homemade cards from each of my 3 kids and a meal out and we took the kids swimming. I did get gifts, the kids got me pjs, slippers and flowers. No drama here, we saw mil the day before.

Oh, for goodness sake, why are people so nitpicky?

OP had a nice day. I had a nice day too. No need for everyone else to criticise. Only on MN...

I’ve had a lovely day. I am very aware that some of my friends who have tragically lost their children to illness, or have recently lost their own mums or are struggling with infertility have found today hard and painful. I’m sure they would love to have had a nice day “without any drama” but sadly that’s not an option open to everyone today and, because of that, I’m going to avoid celebrating my own good fortune on social media etc because I don’t think it’s very sensitive.

YANBU

I'm glad it went well for you this year 🌺

YANBU

It’s nice to appreciate the little things. My teen girls bought me some Galaxy and Reese’s chocolates (which they know are my favourites) and my DH treated us to a nice restaurant for lunch.

@Hotairblues I am also not a "birth mum". I used to get told that foster mum was the best. It hurt at the time, but ds was just testing me. 20 years later I'm the "best mum in the world" apparently. Hang on in there!

I had a nice Mother’s Day too. Nice cards with thoughtful words written inside. Flowers, choc and wine. Adult son visited after his shift at work. Younger daughter made pancakes for everyone and tidied up. Nice and relaxed. Mine are old enough to do Mother’s Day without prompting or help these days. This is second Mother’s Day without my own mum so although easier than last year there was a couple of tearful moments too.

Im sure that everybody is delighted that OP had a good day. A few people are taking exception to the smug delivery of ‘no need for drama’ as if it’s the choice of everyone who had a crappy day.

That is really really hard @Hotairblues Sending an unmumsnetty hug

My four year old had coloured me a card with "hapy mum day" written inside & older one brought me a coffee in bed...

I thought it was a reasonable result

Completely agree. I should have celebrated mother's day today but didn't due to a double neonatal loss in November. There was drama in my house today, me being completely overwhelmed with grief and my husband driving me out to the grave to see my twins.

I've no resentment towards anyone having a lovely mother's day and I know my day will come but this thread is belittling those who had a sh##t day and I feel for them.

Aye because I'm sure all the people who've had "drama" did that on purpose for shits and giggles.

I'm glad you had a nice day OP, as did I, but being smug and shit eating about it to the people who didn't is not a good look.

Good for you op, sounds like a great day

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Mine are grown up, I had a card from each and joint flowers and I feel very lucky. I'd a difficult relationship with my own parents so am just glad to be on good terms with my children.

This thread isn't "belittling" anyone. Leave your personal situations out of it!!

I also had a lovely day. I had breakfast of French toast and bacon brought to me in bed, with orange juice, and I really enjoyed it! Had a lie-in prior to breakfast and slept again after. My main pressie was a night out with a friend to see Martin Kemp 'swoon' do a DJ set. He was brilliant!! Such a beautiful man!

I had a card from my children, and one from my cats! I had a beautiful roast dinner cooked for me. I really enjoyed my day!

I presume that was aimed at my post. I mentioned my situation just as one example of how hard mothers day can be. I genuinely wasn't looking for a reaction. Just making a point.

Belittling was the wrong word for me to use fair enough. I just think it's ok that some people post that their day was bad.

YANBU to share that you've had a lovely Mother's Day.
I have had too.
YABU if you think that's always the way though, sometimes you want a nice peaceful day and it doesn't always happen, due to kids being small and not being able to buy stuff for you, (obviously) so you end up feeling unappreciated or MILs making it all about her and overriding and not allowing you time with your own children as well.
Mine getting older now so have enjoyed a visit of eldest who brought flowers and I don't expect much of youngest who doesn't have own money yet. He knows how to make me a great cup of tea though and that's what matters lol