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hopingtosmileagain · 10/03/2024 17:27

Hi

I left a partner 9weeks ago as he started getting abusive towards me kick offs when drunk mainly

Calling me names wasn't nice

Since these 9 weeks he's seeked help an started medication constantly telling me he's changed he loves me he understands how much he's hurt me etc!

I was taken into hospital he was on my next of kin I didn't realise,

I asked my friend to bring me some stuff up but she didn't as she said she couldn't get out

He came to the hospital with bag of stuff I haven't seen him since he last left,

He's been very nice we even had a meeting when I came out of the hosptal with my family support worker.. he engaged well

When he's kicked off before I had him back straight away this time I haven't,

Now I'm thinking maybe he has changed an won't know until I sort of try maybe

But since seeing him somethings don't feel right maybe it's because I'm waiting for the kick off! He's helped me with it's my cleaning since being poorly made sure I'm eating etc

Last night he said he knows I love him but I don't show him enough, he said my ex I knew loved me but with you I'm very unsure!

Also in that 9weeks of him saying how much he loved me he had a one night fling.. an expects me to jsut get over it as it wasn't cheating.. and everyone is talking about him..

Now I'm on the mend I'm starting rtoneorry he's he played oh my vulnerability

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Mummyofthewildones · 10/03/2024 17:28

He's not going to change. Don't fall for it. You're out now, please stay strong and don't get sucked back in, OP.

Geebray · 10/03/2024 17:29

Last night he said he knows I love him but I don't show him enough, he said my ex I knew loved me but with you I'm very unsure!

Also in that 9weeks of him saying how much he loved me he had a one night fling.. an expects me to jsut get over it as it wasn't cheating.. and everyone is talking about him..

Bin him off. He hasn't changed, he just doesn't like not being in control of you any more.

EveryOtherNameTaken · 10/03/2024 17:33

He's insecure and has not changed.

You need to break contact again.

nutbrownhare15 · 10/03/2024 17:55

You will always be waiting for the next kick off. It's very unlikely he has dealt with his underlying issues which led him to be abusive. I wouldnt get back with him.

hopingtosmileagain · 10/03/2024 18:19

Thnak you all

I've sat here an cried today cause I wanted to believe him an want to believe him...

I just wanted others opinions,

He's started to show when he said everyone is judging him.

He didn't tell his friends the full story..

He said all he friends have said how much he's changed wn I've made him in to a different man

He's kept telling how much he's missed being with me he was watching rugby w kept asking if he was being to loud as he didn't want to scare me!

An he'll never anything like this again

Since addressing some issues today he's said he's had enough he's honest with me an now not spoken to me sicne!

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