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To be feeling so guilty about this

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massey08 · 10/03/2024 16:55

I haven’t seen my mum on Mother’s Day and I feel so bad, she only lives in the next village.

She has spent almost the whole day at my sister’s and is still there now, as it is also my niece’s birthday. My BIL is poorly just getting over a stomach bug so we decided not to visit them as I am pregnant and don’t want to catch anything, plus a close relative of my DH is immunosuppressed due to chemotherapy so if we caught anything and passed it to them it would be very bad indeed.

I saw a post on social media which said you should really appreciate every Mother’s Day you are lucky enough to have with your mum. I dropped over her card and chocolates but I am on social media and I see loads of my friends having taken their mums out for afternoon tea or dinner and I haven’t done this for mine. Just feel lousy and guilty - she deserves the world!

I suppose I could go over this evening when they are home, but it looks like an afterthought, doesn’t it? What else could I do to make it up? She doesn’t seem bothered but I would hate to think she was privately upset that she hadn’t seen both her daughters.

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VickyEadieofThigh · 10/03/2024 16:59

Ring her this evening, say you're sorry you couldn't go to the gathering but are being ultra cautious re: the baby - then say you want to take her out for lunch next week (or similar).

Then she gets an extra treat and time with you.

Dearover · 10/03/2024 17:01

I think you're overthinking it. Many people don't see their mum on Mothering Sunday & you have very good reasons not to do so. You've shown you cared. As the mum of an adult DD, I don't expect any fuss and neither does my own mum.

PaminaMozart · 10/03/2024 17:02

Sometimes mother's day is invested with too many emotional demands. Take her out for a special day - something she'd really love to do - next weekend, or at a time that works for her.

cigarettesNalcohol · 10/03/2024 17:19

Better late than never! Give her a ring and ask her when is she free for afternoon tea. Even if you take her out after the event itself it's best to do it than not bother at all.

Scaffoldingisugly · 10/03/2024 17:21

You are nurturing another dgc.. What better gift will she have next Mother's day?

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