Why do people act like this around me?

[Spiderplant23]

I am waiting a diagnosis of adult ADHD and ASD.

However, I’ve noticed that lots of people talk to me differently than they do with others. It’s like an almost pitying tone of voice. Or as though they’re talking to a child.
One example is other mums on school drop off, they’ll be talking to someone else in what I would call a normal tone. Then they’ll speak to me and it’s sort of talking down to me, the only way I can describe it is the way you’d speak to a child or someone who struggles with understanding.

So do they know?
I am sorryif they do. My older daughter said similar once she had her ASD diagnosis.
People can be ignorant, but intentionally and unintentionally.
Try to rise above but I know its not easy

No, they don’t know. That’s why I don’t understand it.

My in laws do this to me (I have autism) nobody else does.

Are they aware of your diagnosis?

They're just snotty nose cows who think they're above others.

Ignore & avoid.

That sounds really rude. If it continues with certain people you could send them/ hand them some info about ASD and emphasise it's not a learning disability. You'd think people would be more respectful. It could be some sort of ignorant trait, like a microagression, that they don't even realise they are doing! Not that it makes it acceptable.
Edit> Just saw they dk your diagnosis. In which case just assume they are twats. If you wish to tell them about it then do so but they sound awful.

Might be an odd one, but would you say you talk to others normally? Can you hold a conversation in a way that's similar to how others do, or do you struggle at all with that?

I'm just wondering if they've noticed a struggle in the way you communicate and are compensating? Or they could just be massive idiots, hard to tell without being there! My sister has a similar diagnosis and her communication style isn't standard so often finds she struggles to communicate with others / they struggle to communicate with her.

I have no idea how I communicate and if it’s different from others, as I don’t know what’s normal.

Some people get this because they appear innocent in some way, maybe because they’re short, look young, speak slowly, are generally more quiet, etc.

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I’m short and look younger than I am and definitely feel some people are like this with me.

If everyone does it then I wonder if your face is not giving the usual micro expression responses that show you are hearing and understanding what people say to you?