To be upset about mothers day

[Ttcmum637118]

Aibu to be upset that neither my long term partner or child’s dad has bothered acknowledge it’s mother days to me, partner knows as he went to get his mum flowers…
so just getting on like a normal day doing washing cooking ect

What usually happens on Mothers day? Does your ex usually get something from your DC?

If its bothering you then say something. Don't get on with the washing and cooking.

Put your feet up and say you're relaxing as it's Mothers Day.

Mention it if it bothers you.

He doesn’t but always sends a text and partner usually gets me a card and chocs but this year nothing not one thing been said and just got on like normal

This is a difficult set up for this kind of thing.

I wouldn't expect your DP to mark Mother's Day because his connection to you does not involve the parenting of a child and your ex may feel that since you're not in a relationship he doesn't need to facilitate this. I think if you're on good terms with your ex he would be the one I would be disappointed not to get something from out of the two of them though.

It doesn't make it any less hurtful for you that you've had nothing from anyone today and I'm sorry this has happened to you but I can see valid reasons why neither your DP or your ex has done anything.

Why would your ex?

How old are your DC? Did they make cards in school or anything?

Making you do the daily drudgery same as always is shit. That's unless yours is a perfectly 50:50 household. I'd down tools.

Has your child done anything? Do you have a parenting agreement with your Ex? My DH has it written in that they help the kids with mothers and fathers day

Some schools aren’t doing them anymore my kids school didn’t and I have two in primary.

Stop all washing & cooking immediately.
Inform occupants of house it’s your day off due to it being Mother’s Day.
Find yourself a comfy chair, do whatever you like doing eg reading, watching a film. When they request food say nicely, they can choose they are preparing. Of course feed young child if appropriate.

Mother’s Day is far from over. He might be giving you a present and card later on, or cooking you dinner, or have another surprise waiting for you.

I’m sorry. I have same set up as you and ex got me (from child!) chocolates, Prosecco and a card. My current dp helped my child make me breakfast this morning. They should be doing something like that for you. I don’t think you’re BU

Some schools don’t do cards anymore my kids school doesn’t and have two in primary.

quoted wrong post earlier.

Oh yeah I know. Was just wondering if hers had though, so she would have had something

Does he know its important to you? I don't really like Mother's day for various complicated reasons and some of my friends don't really don't anything.