Rumours from high school 10 years ago are affecting friendships

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My friend has a friend, who works with someone I went to school with.

My school was brutal and there was loads of rumours about loads of people.

The one her friend has heard is that "I gave oral sex to someone in the toilet". It's not true. I had a lot of girls who just didn't like me

I did really well in exams and went to uni to do law. This created a lot of jealously amongst girls.

The girl my friends friend worked with was very jealous I did better in her chosen subjected. There was a group chat about me too just being super nasty about me and one girl replied "you can't just hate someone because they got better exam results than you" and that ended the chat.

What on earth do I do? It's over 10 years ago. It's also not true? I have no energy. I genuinely can't believe this person even remembers it yet felt the need to say it, especially in the jobs they have. (They've to be role models to young people)

I'm just waiting on the other rumours that I attempted suicide, slept with a teacher, was pregnant every year and my best friend (female) and I were in a relationship to be brought up too.

The way this was said between the women too is so silly. She felt she had to tell my friend so she knew.

We're almost 30. The girl who told her is 30.

I have to say that hearing someone was still circulating rumours about me a decade after leaving school would make me howl with laughter.

I know there were some school rumours about me, which I was only thinking about recently, becasuse I returned to live in my hometown after 28 years. I was supposed to have bitten off part of someone's ear in a fight, which I think must have originated because I was considered a 'swot' (ie I was fairly literate at the kind of rough school where that was dangerous) and someone tried to beat me up in the loos, not realising I was actually fairly good in a fight precisely because of being at said rough school. I fired them into a corner, and had a brief reputation as a bad ass.

Unfortunately, some of the post-school news about other classmates is (a) the truth and (b) very grim. A few have died young (suicide and drugs, one a car crash where the driver was drinking), and one, who I always kind of liked for some reason, is in prison.

Honestly, OP, don't give it any headspace.

@NotestoSelf "I was fairly literate at the kind of rough school where thst was dangerous.

Apologies for PMSL but that's a brilliant turn of phrase. Love it.

I had rumours spread about me in the workplace. It turned out the rumour spreaders were having an affair. Attack is the best form of defence.