Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To want to improve women's standards?

3 replies

is30tooyoungformidlifecrisis · 09/03/2024 12:22

I don't want to victim blame but I feel like this is a genuine issue and I want to think about how I'll bring up my daughter in regards to it.

I work for a company that creates personalised books as gifts. I proofread the customer submissions and make it make sense grammatically with the pre-made book, if that makes sense. I am sick of reading books to daddy that talk about how he loves to play football or go down the pub, while the books to mummy say she loves looking after her children or 'spending daddy's money lol!!!'

Or they'll say things like daddy doesn't like when mummy gives him a list of chores. Hard to describe here in a short post but I've just read submission after submission of families that are so stereotypically mum is the carer and cleaner and dad works and goes down the pub and plays footie.

I Joined mumsnet after having my baby a year ago and am shocked at the sheer number of posts like 'I work full time and do all cooking all cleaning and all childcare and this week I asked my husband to babysit his child for an hour so I could get my hair done and he called me a bitch, did I do something wrong?' I'm shocked at the number of women that seem to be in relationships with men who contribute exactly nothing except a paycheck.

How can we teach our daughters to expect better? Genuinely asking as I am despairing for women being treated like crap having somehow been made to feel that it's normal or okay.

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 09/03/2024 12:25

How can we teach our daughters to expect better?

By modelling healthy expectations and standards ourselves.

We teach our sons to be decent human beings by expecting reasonable things of them too.

You absolutely will be accused of victim blaming, that’s what always happens. But you’re right. Our children are watching us constantly. It’s what we do that they model in their own relationships.

Meadowfinch · 09/03/2024 12:31

I'm busy teaching my ds to cook, clean up after himself, use the hoover, dishwasher and washing machine.

It needs both to happen

is30tooyoungformidlifecrisis · 09/03/2024 12:37

Of course good point about teaching sons to do better. I just have a daughter so that was on my mind I think!

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page