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It’s my birthday today and I’ve already cried once

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Deebee90 · 09/03/2024 01:50

So it’s my birthday today and I should be all happy and enjoying life.

instead I’m lying on the sofa eating maltesers and watching one day on Netflix because my dick of an ex text me at midnight to tell me he was on a date.

we’ve been split 2 months and speak every day so I stupidly assumed we might get back together or he might get me a card. Just a stupid text.

happy Saturday everyone here’s a birthday to remember ☕️

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ToHellBackAndBeyond · 09/03/2024 06:38

Happy birthday 🎂

Give yourself the best gift and forget them.

Noseybookworm · 09/03/2024 07:49

Happy birthday OP 🎂 hope you're doing something nice today. Your ex sounds like a right tosser so it's time to stop messaging/calling and move on with your life! Get some girlfriends together and have a night out celebrating you 💐

BishopLenBrennan · 09/03/2024 07:52

Happy Birthday!

Richard1985 · 09/03/2024 07:55

So he either deliberately sent that to you knowing it was your birthday or he forgot your birthday completely. What a charmer

saoirse31 · 09/03/2024 07:56

So block him and move on, he clearly has moved on.

Surprisedbuthappy · 09/03/2024 07:56

Happy Birthday to you! Block your ex and then go and do something that makes you happy - go for walk, treat yourself to an indulgent hot drink and cake, book a massage, whatever makes you happy!

willWillSmithsmith · 09/03/2024 08:02

Give yourself the best birthday present and move on from your ex.🎁 💐

SpeedyDrama · 09/03/2024 08:05

Deebee90 · 09/03/2024 01:50

So it’s my birthday today and I should be all happy and enjoying life.

instead I’m lying on the sofa eating maltesers and watching one day on Netflix because my dick of an ex text me at midnight to tell me he was on a date.

we’ve been split 2 months and speak every day so I stupidly assumed we might get back together or he might get me a card. Just a stupid text.

happy Saturday everyone here’s a birthday to remember ☕️

Do you have kids together? Otherwise I agree, block his shitty arse. I suggest taking 10 mins to write down every crappy thing about him, remember why he’s an ex then spend the rest of the day doing whatever you want. Have you anything planned with friends? Or can you have a hot bath with your favourite drink (doesn’t have to be booze 🤣) then order a massive takeaway and watch something that isn’t a rom com.

ISpyNoPlumPie · 09/03/2024 08:05

No no no @Deebee90, he is a bad man. Stringing you along, keeping his options open, casually hurting you because he can (and by destroying your self esteem you’ll be so grateful if he ever decides you might be convenient ever again that you’ll go back to him). Sometimes someone shows you exactly who they are and you have a moment of clarity when you realise how much they mean to you and how little you mean to them. Take it! Leave him in the past now.

Your birthday might not be exactly what you want it to be but you can start moving towards something better for yourself. Maybe you have plans already but if not, what do you want to do? I’d go for a nice walk, buy some buns, have a good coffee, maybe a film, or a good book, meet up with friends/family, get my nails done, treat myself to some new beauty products or clothes, go for a good workout. Whatever you want it to be, sometimes nice, nurturing, and meaningful to you. Hope you have a lovely day.

Illpickthatup · 09/03/2024 08:05

Happy Birthday! Block the ex and go do something nice for your birthday.

SpeedyDrama · 09/03/2024 08:05

Oh, and happy birthday!!

Mummyoflittledragon · 09/03/2024 08:07

Happy birthday!! One day I hope you will appreciate that this text was a gift to you, you now get to process and come to the realisation that your ex is not a nice person, not at all.

PossumintheHouse · 09/03/2024 08:10

Your ex just gave you a very special birthday gift - megaphoning what a twathead he actually is.

Your reply? “Oh, me too! I’d forgotten what a real dick actually feels like!” Then block immediately.

justmyluck1234 · 09/03/2024 08:17

Happy Birthday... I'm sorry but he sounds like an arse! You deserve better block him and do what makes you Happy

Begaydocrime94 · 09/03/2024 08:18

Happy birthday honey x

TeenyTinyCrocodile · 09/03/2024 08:18

Happy Birthday OP! You've still got most of your birthday left (and you could be like me and string it out all week or more anyway), so block the wazzock, find something to go out to today even if it's on your own, and enjoy the rest of your day, and the rest of your life.

Trulyme · 09/03/2024 08:23

Happy birthday!! 🥳

I feel sad for you but honestly this is the best thing that could have happened.

You’ve just wasted 2 months of your life waiting for a man who is not good enough for you.

If he hadn’t sent you that message, you probably would have waited even longer for him and end up in a situation where he shags you then drops you constantly.

This is proof that he doesn’t care about you and that you need to block his number, delete all of his messages and move on.

This is a new day.
Whatever age you just turned, make it the age where you turn your life around.

I think it’s always easier to get over someone when you’ve got so something/someone else to focus on.
So go out with your friends, join a dating site, get a new hobby etc and keep yourself busy.

foghead · 09/03/2024 08:24

He deserves to be an ex! Block him as he's not someone you need in your life and that's all you need to remember.

Happy Birthday op. Hope you have some lovely people around you.

Shesmyhero · 09/03/2024 08:33

Happy Birthday!!
Today is a new beginning for you. He would have known the impact texting you would have had - he knows it’s your birthday today.
The “will we”, “won’t we” is over - he’s proved to you he is a totally dick not worth your tears so today you draw a line in the sand and move on.
He’s actually given you the best birthday present ever - freedom. He’s shown you who he is and you need to listen to him and keep yourself free to meet someone who cherishes you.

Bobbotgegrinch · 09/03/2024 08:55

Hey, at least he got you a birthday gift. The gift of freedom from him. At least you now get to start this new year knowing that you don't need to keep talking to him, dangling on his hook until he decides to reel you back in.

Mummyoflittledragon · 09/03/2024 08:56

PossumintheHouse · 09/03/2024 08:10

Your ex just gave you a very special birthday gift - megaphoning what a twathead he actually is.

Your reply? “Oh, me too! I’d forgotten what a real dick actually feels like!” Then block immediately.

Ha ha. Good response. Although I’d probably not send it!

Beamur · 09/03/2024 08:58

Happy birthday.
YANBU for feeling a bit sorry for yourself.
But it's a good day for moving on. Stop waiting for your ex (presumably there's a reason why he's an ex) and get busy having a birthday on your own terms. Stop texting him.
Contact your friends and do something fun.

LoreleiG · 09/03/2024 09:05

He is an ex, yet you have been talking for two months, and he told you, at midnight, that he was on a date. On your birthday. He keeping you in his pocket to boost his ego. Telling you he was on a date was designed to emotionally crush you, and make you even more in love with him. It’s an ego thing. He does not care about you, only about his ego. The only thing you can do is block him - everywhere. And have a lovely birthday watching One Day and planning the rest of your life.

NoraLuka · 09/03/2024 09:08

Ex sounds like a twat, and imagine being on a date with a bloke who spends even 30 seconds texting his ex? I feel sorry for his date tbh.

Whatdoido1987 · 09/03/2024 09:29

Nothing good usually comes from staying in touch with an ex, hurt feelings will always follow. Take control of the situation to protect yourself, block him and take yourself out somewhere nice for the day or surround yourself with people that you get along with. I hope you manage to salvage the day x