Am I being overly sensitive

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I brought back gifts for my in laws from my holiday and my MIL goes Ah thank you so much and then in their native language goes to my husband 'oh I'll thank you also because you probably paid for them' but laughing and then my husband went to repeat and she nudged him. However, I got it out of him in the end. I can't help but think that's actually rude considering I paid with my own money and I also spent time picking them out. Now I am questioning everything I've ever brought do they just think I am under my husband's shadow or something.

Should I bring it up and just make it known that actually I paid for them and they are welcome again. I am a full time working woman and tbh I find it quite offensive to make out I can't be capable of buying a small gift without my husband's money.

I wouldnt think much in to it, just sounds like a throw away comment

Why did your husband not correct her?

Sounds like a joke/funny comment.

Stop looking for drama where there is none.
Unless there is a huge back story of the MIL saying snarky things?
You are married, finances are generally intertwined to some degree. So the gift was essentially from both of you, or did your DH also buy a gift?
What did FIL say when you presented the gift to him?

She was extremely rude.

I would take this as a sign to leave all present buying to DH in future.

Of course it’s rude, what planet are you on?!

Did your husband not bother telling her then? Why is mil the issue when clearly your husband is the problem.

If it was meant as a joke it's not, tone is everything. There is a language barrier.
No need for YOU to be rude to ME!

I think you were rude to OP accusing her of creating drama.

You don’t know if it was meant as a joke.

The OP was thanked by MIL for the gift.
MIL laughed and made a comment to her son in their own language. laughed I assume in a joke way?
OP got it out of him in the end screams Dama *to me)

I would find this rude and ungrateful. Can your DH tell MIL that her comment upset you?

I have a good relationship with MIL and I am sure it wasn't mean in a bitchy way but to say it in their native language even as a 'joke' / not joke it's still rude given I brought them. If my DH buys my family stuff, I will let them know that it's from my husband. My SIL used to post and only thank her brother when it was me and that used to rub me on the wrong side. My DH should of definitely said something but I think he took it as a joke. I did tell him that was rude and he said mention it it's fine. It's not me creating drama but I think it's rude to say that. A thank you from both would have been sufficient.

Just to add I think MIL also knows that's rude otherwise she would of said it I'm English and also wouldn't of nudged her son to not repeat it. If it's a joke then it can be shared with everyone and I would of laughed it off and corrected.