50/50 Custody Arrangements

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Nimbus1999 · 08/03/2024 14:29

Stbxh wants 50/50 on a 7 days on / 7 days off basis with no/little contact in between.

I want a split week so M&T one parent, W&T other parent & EOW swap. Kids are happy with the split week but have never done 7/7. Have stuff in both houses so no belongings being taken back and forth.

We live 5 mins from each other and school.

Kids in primary, youngest 6.

YABU - 7 days in a row is fine.
YANBU - More regular contact is a good option.

Help!

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RandomMess · 09/03/2024 23:06

I think at 6 it's just too young for 7 days no contact to be in the DC best interest. You can say you are happy to consider it when they are older but not now.

Gemstonebeach · 10/03/2024 01:51

We do 2/2/5/5. Week around is just too much for my early school years children at the moment but would definitely consider it when older.

Wasityoubecayse · 25/10/2024 16:12

Comingupriver · 09/03/2024 18:22

UK courts do not favour 50/50. They favour continuity so if parents have chosen implemented 50/50 it’s unlikely a court will stop it.

peer reviewed articles 👇🏼

Kelly, J.B. (1993). Current research on children’s post-divorce adjustment––no simple answers, Family Court Review. Vol 31(1):29-49.

Mahrer, N.E. et. al (2018). Does shared parenting help or hurt children in high conflict divorced families? J Divorce Remarriage. 59(4): 324-347.

Martin, H.B. & Adams, C.B.L. (2018). Living on Automatic: How Emotional Conditioning Shapes Our Lives and Relationships. ABC-Clio, Santa Barbara, CA.

Nielsen, L. (2014). Shared physical custody: Summary of 40 studies on outcomes for children, J of Divorce & Remarriage, 55(8):613-635.

Pires, M. & Martins, M. (2021). Parenting styles, coparenting, and early child adjustment in separated families with child physical custody processes ongoing in family court, Children, 8(8): 629.

Pruett, M.K. & Barker, R. (2009). Children of divorce: New trends and ongoing dilemmas. In J. H. Bray & M. Stanton (Eds), The Wiley-Blackwell Handbook of Family Psychology, pp. 463-474.

Wallerstein, J.S. et.al (1996). Surviving the Breakup: How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce, Basic Books.

These sources dont support your argument and some arent peer reviewed . They are someones opinion not a medical grade study. Uk courts moved to 50/50 as the rule rather than the exception. Abuse is where things diviate. Please dont give out false information.

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Nimbus1999 · 26/10/2024 09:06

Cafcass recommended to court that a week on / week off was not in their best interests. We are doing the 5522 split and seems to work ok.

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