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To resent my ex husband

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Primrosecottagelover · 08/03/2024 06:46

I was married to a controlling man and we share one brilliant and beautiful little boy, aged 7.

I left our marriage 5 years ago due to his controlling manner, rage, strangling and hitting me. I packed my car when my son was 2 and before he witnessed anything and moved 3 hours away.

Over time I’ve just been happy to be away from him and start a new life, to be free etc.

My ex husband has become increasingly Catholic, only going to Latin mass and being obsessed with traditional teachings and right wjng beliefs. I’ve left him to it because it’s not my business until recently…

My 7 year old said to me on the way to school, “I’m looking forward to the world to end because Jesus will save us and take us to another world where we can’t die”. He also told me what a black mass was - worshipping Satan (obviously told to him as a negative thing but even so…) and said his Dad had told him.

Added to this he is now pressuring me to withdraw my confident, social and happy boy from his school so that he can be home schooled. He said socialisation isn’t important and our son needs to be protected from external influences & learn from us.

Just as an added note, I don’t support the above beliefs. I am Christian.

Added to all of this he was director of my Late Dad’s company after he died (as a favour - we were married). I’ve since discovered my Late Dad has 9 million plus in property contracts that appear to be unaccounted for and that his settlement agent had access to accounts. It’s a long time ago but my ex husband won’t let me get my legal files or listen to me about it. I don’t think he’s involved at all as it was before his time but he’s stonewalling me and has decided it’s not worth pursuing and will upset me. It all happened weeks before my Dad died and I’ve only recently discovered many major facts etc.

I resent my ex husband and feel just resentment

OP posts:
Billybagpuss · 08/03/2024 06:54

How often does he have access?

you need a lawyer for the business issues. Start a diary of every incident with your ds and do not engage with any suggestions of home school etc.

Theunamedcat · 08/03/2024 06:58

Go through solicitors about the money

Do not remove your child from school be aware that as he has PR unless you have an order he can remove him and keep him to home educate

IncompleteSenten · 08/03/2024 14:48

Enjoy the Scientology newsletters.

To resent my  ex husband
Leeds2 · 08/03/2024 14:50

I would get a solicitor to give advice about the business issues. Do not tell ex that you have sought such advice.
Keep your son in mainstream school.

Rangelife · 08/03/2024 14:53

Oh man, the weird long paragraph bots are here on MN now Sad

Rangelife · 08/03/2024 14:54

Wow, swiftly dealt with MN! Excellent work 😀

IncompleteSenten · 08/03/2024 14:59

Well now I look like I've been a nasty twat to the OP or something🤣🤣

The post has vanished. Not even a deleted by Mumsnet message!

A spammer posted with some love spell shite. Gave an email address.
I did what I always do when a spammer puts an email address up on here...

I signed it up to Scientology.
They never let you go.

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