taking time off work because DH's granny just passed away?

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Just had a call from DH, his grandmother who he was very close to was unexpectedly found dead this morning. He sounds very upset and is on his way home. I am snowed under with work this week, and already behind. Is it reasonable to explain to my boss that I may need time off because a grandparent-in-law has passed away?

Obviously I have no clue about arrangements yet. I also have no idea what I can do to help my in-laws?

People often take leave at a hat because their child is sick. Some parents take loads of leave without notice to look after sick kids. If your husband has lost his mother he NEEDS looking after.

I think that taking leave people your husband has lost a parent is reasonable.

Where I work you are allowed up to five days a year paid leave to cover your kid being sick, or a family breavement. If you need more than five days compassionate leave then you have to take it as unpaid.

I don't think Margo was being harsh.
I agree with her.
Funeral leave v acceptable as compassionate, some other flexible agreement could be made for anyting else like annual leave.

I don't think it's unreasonable - I took compassionate leave to go to my husband's grandad's funeral. Depends on the employer though i suppose whether you have to take it as leave or not. If it was someone working for me, I would let them

Sorry to hear this
I agree with margo
Reallytired, it's her DP's granny

Ok, it is DP granny. I think a lot depends on how much unexpected leave the OP has taken and contravesally how much sick leave she has taken in the past year.

My employer would probably let her have compassionate leave for the funeral and let her take annual leave if necessary. I know someone who was given the afternoon off to attend the funneral of an elderly next door neighbour (who was completely and utterly unrelated) The person in question had never taken any sick leave in five years and it was the first time he had asked for compassionate leave.

The fact that my employer is fairly generous means that employees tend to work extra hours and are very loyal and stay for years. It is rare for people to take the pi$$.

I was allowed leave when dh's Grandad died, but that was becaause dh had lived with his grandparents as a child and the rules covered someone who brought you or your partner up. I was only allowed two days though. A colleague was allowed 3 days for her husband's mother because she lived abroad.

Thanks all, I've not taken time off yet, but will, if I need to for the funeral.

If you were on my team and had deadlines to meet, I would be extremely irritated if you took a day off to be with your husband because his grandmother had died, unless she had brought him up and was a mother figure to him. If it was his mother or father, that would be a different matter. A day off for the funeral would, of course, be fine.