To nkt let son move in

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Ds24, out of the blue has asked if he can come and move into mine and my DP's home. I dont know why. My concerns are:

• this could easily become long term


• he has an very loud car which the neighbours have complained about when he visits


• he uses a lot of electricity, staying up late with lights on, gaming etc


• My home is my private space and my privacy. I like to have my own space when Im in my own house

He keeps asking, offered rent, expenses etc. But Im not sure if it would work.

What?!

Oh! That escalated quickly. What a weird answer, are you ok op?

Hi OP,
I am confused as to whose son this is and previous issues?
24- quite old to move in again if they left home- issues with home parent/step parent (if there are any, would seriously need to be ironed out

My thoughts

Well, quite. It's been deleted now though.

Well this is going to be a productive thread...

Did you start this thread just to insult people?

The weirdest thread I've ever read on here!

Im gutted the op responses keep getting deleted, i miss all the drama

Op, id let my son move in no matter what

My kids would always have a home with me. Whatever their age.

This is your own son? I don't understand how some parents don't offer a lifetime of support 😭 my son is 2 years old and if he's 50 and wants to come home he will be welcomed with open arms. My opinion is a mothers job doesn't end at 18. I'm 35 and my parents would welcome me home at any point, parents support really is a game changer, let him home 💙

I mean it's a wild suggestion but have you asked your son why he wants to move in? You sound like you have a very odd relationship.

Just tell him your terms upfront. Repair or replace car/anything else. Agree to revisit after x amount of time. He should have a place to fall back on, even if it isn't long term.

Oh looks like I missed a good thread!

If you don't want him to live with you then it's not going to work out is it? Just say to him that you think he's better off with his own space and that you don't want to go back to cooking for children etc. I suspect he's been kicked out of wherever he's living now.