To think fuck off ?

[FrenchFairytale]

Worked at a lovely team for a while. Member of staff there is a bit hard work but has a good side so we all kind of tolerate her. However me and another colleague asked permission, and were granted, to go to a hour long presentation.
This colleague did nothing but moan and bitch how we'd been let go to everyone. She has form. She's constantly in people's diaries moaning about this and that. She questions people about their holidays as she thinks the team should be 100 percent covered all the time.
She has a difficult home life. Her adult kids are always on the phone so interuppting her work so she gets nothing done then we have to help

She was absolutely wicked that day about colleague and I.
Aibu to stop helping her and just do my work? I think people who act that shitty can get on with it alone.

I would say that her manager needs to have a strong word with her about the way she speaks to/about her colleagues, because it's incredibly unprofessional. And no, I wouldn't be stepping in to pick up the slack if she's not getting her work done, either. This too is something her manager needs to be dealing with.

They won't deal with it and I'm not paid too. I'm just going to stay in my lane now. After being treated like that her work is her own.

All of this! Don't help her anymore - grey rock. And her manager needs to be made aware.

I'd be closing off my diary to her big old beak, she can fuck off and mind her own business. Does the boss know she does no work cos her kids are always mithering her?

Definitely stop helping her. Just be too busy.

Yes its been going on years. Coming into work distressed and phone calls 4 to 5 times a day.

Public sector?

Yes

Make your diary private. "If you have a problem with xyz please escalate to my manager"

Unfortunately diaries cannot be made private. I think I'm just going to ignore and not get pulled into doing her work.

Are you allowed to create private appointments in the diary?

Know it well. Angry little trolls stamping about the place poking their noses into who is doing what. Spiteful cunts who need to be sorting out their own lives but they’d rather pick over yours. Keeping a book of who is doing what. Managers running scared in case they turn on them so they end up in corners whispering with them. I’ve lived it. Nothing is ever done. It wouldn’t be allowed to go on in a private company. They’d be dealt with. I do feel for you. It’s easy to say ignore but the behaviour outrages and angers you then you take it home and you find yourself on edge all the time at the unfairness. Am I right?

Nope

Yes. Angry spiteful and lazy comes to mind. Can be lovely though so you always feel a bit meh. No more help though off me or another colleague.

Mmm yeh could be pleasant but would then stab you in the back. Are you London-based?

Nah Miles away. I'm happy in the job so don't see why I should leave. She's just so negative and moany

Don’t help her and have some stock phrases ready for when she asked for help eg would love to help you Karen but I can’t,

If she becomes funny about hours/ courses/ holidays - you can ignore or ask ‘is this your responsibility?’ Or straight out ‘do you have an issue with XYX?’ - if she then blusters ‘well I don’t think it’s fair blah blah blah ‘- your response can be ( head tilted to the side) ‘don’t you?’ And walk away

You dont need to explain or apologise- she’s not your line manager

What she is doing is creating drama in your direction in order to throw anyone off the scent that she is useless/ floundering whatever. It’s a classic case of ‘look over there’ because she knows she can’t / won’t do the job

Try really hard to see it for what it is and not let it stress you - every workplace has at least one of these

@FrenchFairytale Ah right. Wondered if it might be a London based public sector job x

I'd be seriously considering making a formal complaint about her behaviour to be honest. It's not of her bloody business why others have annual leave and no one should be picking up the slack for her being too lazy to do her job. I can't believe the audacity for her to moan about others but then have adult children ringing her at work! She is a bully.

If the managers won’t deal with her why don’t you just say with a smile and a polite tone that it is a personal matter and you are not comfortable talking about it with anyone other than your manager, and that if she has an issue with anything you’re sure that her own manager would be happy to chat it through with her. If she’s slagging others off just say the same things. There are ways to deal with these people.