To think this is not normal tired?

[redraspberry]

I have been feeling like this for many years but it does seem to get worse and worse, just completely exhausted all the time.
I am a SAHP but dc are both in primary school and I go to bed tired wake up tired, take the dc to school and feel so emotionally drained by that I don't have any energy left.
I pick the dc up after school and feel like I need a rest, even walking up the stairs makes me exhausted and I need to lay down.
By the time I've made the dc some dinner I'm ready for bed and will usually fall asleep as soon as I put the dc to bed.
Dh has so much more energy, he comes home from work and potters about and just being around him makes me tired.
We recently went on holiday which I thought I was looking forward to but I found it absolutely exhausting and was dragging myself out everyday willing the days by because it was too much.

Does anyone else feel tired all day everyday and physically have to force themselves to do the tiniest bit of exertion?

No that’s not normal. Have you had your bloods tested?

Are you sleeping properly? For years I was like this (at times very anaemic so that was different) but I found I'm a really light sleeper and DH was disturbing me! I'd wake every time he moved, rolled, snores, looked at his phone or got up. We've been together over 20 years and the last 2-4 years we've been sleeping separately, I've felt so much better!

Holiday exhaustion sounds like too much mental toll on you to organise etc

Anaemia
Liver disease
Depression/anxiety
ME
Chronic fatigue syndrome
Unhealthy lifestyle
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Autoimmune Diseases
Vitamin deficiency
Pregnancy

This was a simple google search, the next advice was see your GP.

This is not normal but very much how I felt before being diagnosed with an underactive thyroid. As PP has said, there are lots of other causes too - anaemia or vitamin deficiencies. Hopefully blood work will show that it’s a really easy fix and you’ll be full of beans again soon x

With me it was low B12, went to the doctor and had blood tests done and they rang the next day to tell me to get myself to the surgery for b12 injections, I was stupidly low in it.

So go to your GP.

No I haven't had any bloods done, I'm only just beginning to wonder if this is normal, it's been my normal for so long.

For me it was Vitamin D...and it's miserable and when you get it fixed and return to normal energy levels it's amazing.

I do sleep well, as soon as my head hits the pillow I'm asleep, I just wake up just as tired as I went to bed.

Controversial but I feel like this any time I'm out of employment, like when I've been on gardening leave or maternity leave. I need the structure of employment to give me energy. During gardening leave I would drop kids at school and sleep half the day until I picked them up, then be in bed by 10 each night. When I'm working full time I'm up for the day at 5.30, I go to the gym 4 times a week, get kids to bed, then do housework, batch cooking, jobs, hobbies from 8-10 each night when I go to bed. I have bags of energy.

What I'm saying is, could it be the SAHP routine isn't working for you and getting a different routine might help?

BTW, this is assuming you have been to a GP and there's nothing untoward. Medical conditions could be things like a thyroid condition that make you feel awful.

Sounds like underactive thyroid, get a blood test done. I felt exactly the same for years before it was diagnosed.

Likely to be low iron or low ferritin - you shouldn’t be this tired

Sounds like a GP visit is needed. Thyroid problems, anaemia and vitamin deficiencies are all very common in women of childbearing age! There’s even an acronym for it - TATT (tired all the time) was what my GP put on my blood test form. Turned out to be underactive thyroid.

Not normal at all (unless you're pregnant?!). Definitely see GP

I agree it might be low iron, or thyroid problems.. or something else but you should definitely see your GP.

If you’re exhausted walking up the stairs that sounds like physical exhaustion rather than lack of sleep. Hopefully it is anaemia and can be easily fixed.

I'll make an appointment with the gp then and see what's going on.

I felt like this.
I couldn't work out why I could do night wakings for a baby and toddler at the same time and feel great.
I now I'm out of breath just walking up the road, I procrastinate everything because the physical effort of doing anything was so exhausting.

I've had bloods which have shown severe iron deficiency anemia, low folic acid and low vitamin D.
Colonoscopy next 😬
But we're trying to get to the bottom of it.

I agree that this is definitely something to consider. A lot of people (myself included) really thrive on routine & actually find the busier they are the more energy they have.

Definitely see a GP but also don’t give up if bloods come back normal!

I had the same and after years of blood tests being fine and GP doing nothing I’ve finally been told I have nasal polyps and my sinus’ are blocked so lots of pressure around my eyes. I’m always tired.
Now, I’m relieved they’ve found something and excited that I’ll be having sinus surgery and hopefully I’ll feel better.