Drug addict friend

[dontwantbenefits]

I have a friend with MS and now wheelchair bound etc

He lives on campus (higher institution)

No family cares or see him

I am basically the only person that checks and help with some of paperwork, calls etc (I try because I have my own health & other life challenges too)

He's now got carers from SS after chasing it for almost 2 years

He is depressed and now on drugs cocain, ketamine etc and it is really messing him up all round. His motor skills worse, thinking etc all the defects of hard drugs + the symptoms of MS
& the irritating part is he is getting me on wild by chase these days. Eg last week Sunday he called me to say his phone charger was broken hence he can't charger his phone to order food (he orders food daily). I rushed to the shop in a cab (I don't drive for medical reasons) to buy charger and plug
& go to him to find that his charger is working
And I asked him but he couldn't give a straight answer because he was high. (This has happened before re getting a call about charger and going there with my own personal charger & getting there to find his charger working and having to use my sons charger to charge me phone at home.)

Next thing on Tuesday he called me to say his charger is not working and I said you have 2 working chargers.

Shall I mention/report this to his GP, the university and to his specialist nurse?

He is eating a special treatment for MS and currently having pre screening done (blood tests and immunisation etc)

I think the backstory is irrelevant. Stop rushing around after him with chargers.

So he's managing to order/buy drugs? Clearly has a link with the outside world- can order drugs/alcohol? Can order food/speak to others for help.

@dontwantbenefits

Stop ✋️ the madness

Just let social services intervention help and support him

You could if you want find out about if there are any charties that help him out there,
if you want to?

That's it..

report your concerns to all of those involved with him (nurse/gp/uni/ss). You dont need this stress but hes not helping himself. Wheres his family?

He is just looking for your attention. Stop giving it to him.

He has carers. Leave it to them. Step away.

I have decided to stop running to him now that he's done it 3 times and I have got there to find working charger but I got him to pay for the cab the last time because is not money I can spear.

I was helping because before the social services stepped in and before he started using drugs, he was completely helpless and I was helping as much as I could while the uni was chasing the social services to step in and it took almost 2 years to get the help set up and now they are still chasing them to provide him a suitable accommodation now for almost a year but nothing.

Shall I inform his student support officer on campus, his GP, his specialist nurce, of his drug use?

Yes. It's important that they know for his sake.

Yes

@dontwantbenefits

He shouldn't expect you to running around for him like unpaid carer or extra one,
most or all the bloody time,
It's really not fair 😕

Otherwise you will end up your mental health nose diving to such an extant,
that you will feel ill,

I agree with @Notimeforaname that he is just looking for attention too,

Where on earth's his family to give him support?
Whats happened there,

I've been in a similar situation too in the past last year,
No good for me or other people involved in caring either 🤷 running around looking out for particular person..

Thanks for all the replies

Before he got into drugs he was wheelchair bound and helpless and even though a popular person when he was fit and had lots of friends, everyone disappeared when he fell ill and I told him I would help him as much as I can which is what I have been doing.

But the drug use is changed things a lot + the fact that I am out of work at the moment so can't afford to be going round like a yoyo

He's fallen out with his family and I do not understand that part myself too. But his mother seems to lack understanding of how things work. She thinks presenting his medical reports to the social services equals automatic accommodation like a 2 bedroom bungalow for him. But then she's never visited him or made any calls to help sort anything out for him. The last time I checked, they were not speaking at all so his entire family has abandoned him.

Oh, the last straw for me was when he called me on Tuesday and he was saying to me he is sorry for all the things he's done. And he wouldn't say what he's done when I asked him. But my gut feeling is he is talking about taking on wild goose chase re chargers when he knows I have no money and not working and have young kids at home or he's been bad mouthing me to people (carers )because I have been visiting like I use to🤷🏽‍♀️ and my guts feeling is to step back from him because he's surely got some links to gangs (well get gets his drugs from dealers ) and he is spending about £500 per week on drugs and then left with no money for food and I am sure he is now owing drug money hence he seems desperate for money these days 🙄

Mate, nothing good will come out of this.

I've supported a friend who was addicted to heroin. They just use you. And even if you know that, it still hurts and eventually you'll snap.

Detangle yourself is my advice.

£500 a week on drugs? Jesus

@Spring5

Yes and then he's got no money for food and sitting there starving and I sometimes have to send him the odd £10 or £20.

He's definitely got a death wish and or he can't help the addiction

There should be a concern line to call, all universities have them

How's he coping with his degree with this level of dysfunction?

@Yazo the university is aware and heavily involved in helping chase social services to set care up and chasing them up for alternative suitable accommodation for his needs but I don't think they know about drug use.

@MyGooseisTotallyLoose he is not studying at the moment. Studies intermitted.

I will be calling his support officer at the university & GP tomorrow to tell them about his coacine use . He needs to go to rehab