Hi, my partner of ten years is a clever guy. He’s mid career and was in a fairly successful business earning in excess of £150k. He was a leader and well respected. He decided to quit as he became disillusioned. Fine. I earn less than him but I felt I could cover us for a few months or a year while he decided what to do. I think he was overly optimistic. His job search is going badly. He’s down. Tonight he drank a lot. He’s being useless to me and our two young children (forgetful, unhelpful, impatient with the kids). I’m working 5 days a week and doing all the chores. Plus two kids. Simple things like kids swimming kit gets left to me while he does very little all day. He’s now becoming pathetic about everything and putting himself down. Calling himself a loser. Unresponsive.
I know I’m being impatient but I feel infuriated. I want to scream. He’s obviously suffering but he’s not helping himself.
I have tried to help his job search, suggest he talks to someone, suggest he does different sports, goes for a run. He’s so flat it’s miserable. He keeps saying he hates himself and in between my frustration my heart is breaking for him and I’m getting worried.