My grandmother passed away recently and my mother and uncle's want to return her ashes to her place if birth in a European country.
There is an expectation that the grandchildren and great grand children will also go. However, for myself and our family it's likely to be a significant amount to pay for this as we are all adults and there is talk of going for 3 to 4 nights minimum. With Fuel, parking, air fair, accommodation and food etc it will be around £1,500-£2,000. Maybe more as traveling in October half term due to work commitments.
When I said I wasn't sure we could afford it she indicated that she might give me some money she's inherited from my grandmothers estate, however she hasn't said how much or if this will be more than the trip is costing us, just "that you might have some money by October"
However to secure cheapish flights (not particularly cheap imo at around £250 each) we need to book this asap and we have literally no disposable income after topping up uni fees. I am managing to save about £100 a month but this was for a holiday fund for our family week away in August. I've current got about £1,100 saved.
I adored my grandmother but I've said my goodbyes to her at her funeral. I don't particularly want to spend such a large amount on a few days away. 1.5k usually pays for a week away for us as a family.
I don't know how to tell my mother that I can't justify the cost. We as a family probably have the biggest outlay as other family members are singles or couples and without children (apart from one cousin who has a child under 2)
My children are older teens but we are supporting them in further education so we'd have to pay for 4 adults.
I don't know, I probably abu, as the cost will probably be covered by the money my mother intends to give me.