To not want to go on a day out with my 4 sisters?

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I only have one day off this week & had planned to go out for the day with my 4 sisters & 8 nieces & nephews all aged from 12 down to 3.

We hadn't decided where to go, but we usually go to the beach with a football & some bats etc... a rug, wellies & a picnic.

Sister 1 had talked about going to a lazer gun place that she had her ds at for his b'day. My ds is 3 so she thought he might be too young for it, so that was ruled out.

Sister 2 wanted us to drive to her city & go to an exhibitition about stars or something... none of the older ones want to go that's ruled out too.

Sister 3 doesn't care where we go. Her dd is 11 & quite easygoing.

I called sister 1 tonight re: a different matter & she said: "Oh I almost forgot, we've decided to go to the pool & then McDonalds on Thursday"

I fuckin' hate the pool!! I have issues with myself in a swimming costume.... dd (6) & ds (3) can't swim.... all the other kids are older (between 12 & 10) & can swim & get dressed etc... the last time we went swimming my sisters all sorted themselves out as their kids are old enough to sort themselves out.. whilst I was last one to get dressed trying to dry dd (she can dress herself) & dry & dress ds.

It's not a pleasurable day out for me to go swimming... it's stressful & wet & just euch.

I told dsis I hated going to the pool & she said she wasn't that fussed either, but other sis really wanted to go.....sis is a size 8 & couldn't care less... I feel massive (14/16) & hate anyone (as well as my sisters) seeing me in a costume with cellulitey legs Also I will ruin the kids' fun if I don't go.. dd & I used to love swimming when I was pg with ds.

I'll look childish if I don't go, won't I?

Well they should have checked with you and arranged something that everyone wanted to do so YANBU. Can't you just ask them to do something else. (BTW I think you are very lucky to have four sisters).

Yes, I am lucky.

We get on great & it's not very often we can arrange a day out all together.

I just don't wanna go swimming. It's not like I can actually swim. I will float about in the small pool with dd & ds whilst they will go into the bog pool & swim lengths

Not the bog pool

The big pool!!

i wouldnt go tbh

i hate the pool as well, all the rigmarole of getting everyone organised and sorted, even if they can mostly sort themselves out

and it always feels cold

Yeah, though if I say I'm not going I will look as if I'm being awkward.

I already said to sis I wasn't enthusiastic about it!

Although little sis hasn't heard where we are for yet...so hopefully she will protest & I will back her up

Exactly lou... it's not swimming.. it's simply getting wet.

OK - could you not get one of your sisters or one of their cousins to help with your children?
in fact, could you not just let them take them swimming and you can sit and drink coffee in the cafe

Yeah, get some help with your los and get into the pool really quick so you don't feel self concious.
I'd have more issues with going to the evil empire that is McDonalds...

Yeah, in my book McDs once a year is fine Everything in moderation.

HC I suppose I could say I have my period on Thursday.......

Anyway, I might have trouble finding a swimsuit that isn't maternity.

Why can't we just do something else?

See, it's 'cos I was at work today & none of the rest of them were & they were able to call each other & discuss it. I am quite easygoing & generally go with the flow, so I guess they didn't think i'd have a prob with it... but fuck I do... more than I thought I would!

just tell them you dont want to do it, as it is only hassle and stress for you

meet them afterwards?

or lie and say your car wont start and you are running late, and get there as they are leaving

The car thing wouldn't work. One sister lives about 10 minutes away & drives a 7 seater! LMAO!!

Anyway, thanks for the suggestions ladies, I must go to bed now... I reckon once younger sis hears about the pool, plans could change!