My mum lives hundreds of miles away and she stayed with us only last week for a good 2 weeks, so visiting her isn’t on the cards at the moment. Just thought I’d get that out there before people start asking about my own mum.
My PIL live 1.5 hour drive away and they come to stay with us every week for one night and a day to help us with childcare. DC is 19 months old. They stay overnight due to the distance and travel time to get here so they don’t have to rush to get here at rush hour and risk being late or stuck on motorway etc. They are always welcome in house to stay or visit as they please and they have their own key. They are an absolute blessing and help us so much and are genuinely such lovely people. Even before we had DC I have always had a great relationship with them, and appreciate and love them to pieces.
This week our usual childcare wasn’t available so they are actually staying with us 2 nights to help us with childcare for 2 days instead of just 1. They will be doing this again next week, again because our usual childcare isn’t available. This was all pre-arranged in advance and they happily agreed. They are always happy to help and always offer childcare help. I do really appreciate them looking after DC and they are really such great grandparents and parents. They treat me like their own daughter. DH has no other siblings so they will have no other Mother’s Day visits from anyone else, but I do feel a bit like we would have seen them so much this week and had 2 evenings to catch up with them, and will do next week as well, do we really have to go and visit on Sunday as well? Can’t we send her gift or flowers and a lovely card and just see her on the usual days?
DC gets horrendously car sick and really distressed so we try to avoid car journeys whenever possible as they need to be organised with military precision to allow a meal to be digested enough that he isn’t sick but also not on the verge of hunger. I have to sit in the back with him to help keep him calm when he’s not feeling well. It will also take up the whole day and it’s the only day we get off as a family ourselves and it’s also Mother’s Day for me. I do however, feel bad that the only reason we get to see them so much is because they come to us to look after DC. I think I would feel differently if DC was a joy to travel with! We do go on car journeys if we have to just prefer to limit it if possible.
UABU- go visit you MIL who deserves to be made a fuss of.
UANBU- you would have seen enough of her. She will be happy with some flowers and a card in the post! Enjoy your own Mother’s Day.