Sorry if this is a bit disjointed. I can't figure out if I'm the unreasonable one here for expecting too much, but I feel quite disillusioned with my family. Without going into too many boring details, my mother who lives abroad on her own complains all the time of being lonely, broke and depressed but won't come over to see me and her GCs although I (gladly) offer to pay. No mobility issues. She would rather be on her own and complain that her friends won't contact her. And she's constantly moaning how awful her friends are. I'm a bit 
at the fact that I contact her and ask her to come over but for some reason that isn't enough. My dad's dead (parents divorced decades ago).
My brothers don't keep in touch at all, one's lonely, broke and depressed but won't make any effort with anyone or try to sort his life out.
Stepmum dropped all contact last summer after a fallout when my dad died. I didn't think it was so bad and things could have been salvaged but apparently not. The other brother is a half brother and appears to have dropped off the face of the earth following the argument with my stepmum. Not that he bothered before.
All these people would rather sit alone in their homes, mostly miserable, than arrange to meet or even keep in touch.
Reading threads here people seem so close to their families and if anything it often seems to be more parents wanting to be a part of their grown up children's lives than the other way round.
I have friends and acquaintances but it's often quite hard work to diarise stuff and despite everything I often find it easier and more natural to be with family, whenever that happens. No need to pretend, keep the conversation going or 'entertain', lots of shared history, everyone knows where you're coming from etc.
Am I odd for expecting family to want to see me, or should I focus more on my friends? Do people spend much time with their parents and siblings?
I'm married with kids so not alone but life can feel a bit isolated at times.