Need opinions if you think this is fair re splitting costs

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My ex and I share one infant age child

recently ex has started having our child overnights more, so cms will be reduced

historically I have paid for all clubs (dance, swimming lessons), school uniform, trips, childcare related costs etc

ex has bought 2 pairs of school shoes

my argument is that as cms is reducing due to ex having more time, he should contribute more to the above costs of clubs etc

he disagrees

my thought process is that surely if he is taking more time and assuming more responsibility for our child he should pay proportionately into those costs, they shouldn't sit solely with me anymore

Yanbu.

If he won't engage on how to do this more fairly, you will need to make sure that he pays for everything that is in 'his' time.

For eg he pays for childcare during his time.

The key point is things like clubs are discretionary, they rely on the parent(s) agreeing the child should do them. Is he equally committed to the child being a member? If you didn't pay anything towards the clubs, would he pay the whole lot or would the child just stop going? If the latter it's your call whether you want to continue paying or would prefer for your child to miss out.

Maintenance is meant to be for everyday living costs. Most people would agree rent and food are everyday living costs but entertainment and hobbies are less clear cut.

Despite how unfair the system is. The rules are fairly straightforward. He has to pay the minimum amount calculated, based on his income and number of nights.

Anything else is doesn't HAVE to share the cost.

Dance, swimming, uniform for an infant?!

You ideally should agree on what your child does, but he is under no obligation to do these activities on his days. If you choose to do them on your days, that’s on you, I’m afraid.

He doesn't have to no. But he should yes. But it's nothing to do with him having his child more, he should have been paying towards those things anyway