To think this is a weird thing to think

[3bagsofwool]

Sister received a handmade gift from a colleague. It was a painting. She sent me a photo of it.

Husband saw it and replied "if that's from a male colleague he fancies her."

Of all the responses, that's a weird first thought to come into his head, no?

I mean I don't think I would even think it was from a man in the first place, given the painting was of flowers. But he said he thought it might be from a man because of the name. The name was an ethnic name but ended in A ie. the person's name was Saleha.

I don't know if the following is helpful context or backstory:

• Husband and I haven't had the best of times together lately. We seem to just not be on the same page about anything.
• This comment about someone fancying my sister bothers me. Maybe from a place of sibling jealousy, but also maybe because my H was not the kindest about my looks once upon a time.
• If I'm completely objective, both me and my sister are quite plain to look at, but with makeup on, we both look nice.
• If a man has ever done something nice or complimented me and I wondered if he was perhaps being more than friendly, husband might reply something like "women always think men are flirting when they're just being nice" etc.

It might help if your husband occasionally complimented you or spent time and thought trying to make you feel “fancied” or loved. Does this ever happen?

If he’s shown a painting of flowers and told it was hand painted as a gift i think it’s a bit jarring if he immediately declares “They fancy her” “They want to get in her knickers” Particularly as there’s no indication it’s even from a man?

Lots of men think like this- they only do something nice for a woman if there’s something in it for them. You’re dh is one of them and he assumes all men think like he does; with their dick.

I would think that if a man did a painting for a woman it would be because they were romantically interested. Unless it's their job and she commissioned it?
I might also think a woman might do it for that reason, though much less likely.

Either way, it sounds like something pretty normal to speculate on, was it a man or a woman? It does make a difference a bit to how you would take it.

If you are saying you think your DH fancies your sister I think that's a bit of a stretch. He seems like he's not being very nice to you though, which is another matter.