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'Middle class earners' - struggling to cope financially and can no longer afford comfortable living standards despite having household incomes of between £60,000 and £120,000- Guardian

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fluffykittens208 · 05/03/2024 09:28

https://www.theguardian.com/business/2024/mar/04/middle-class-workers-mortgages-bills-tax

Excerpts:

'Scott was just one of scores of middle-class earners who shared with the Guardian how they are struggling to cope financially and can no longer afford comfortable living standards despite having household incomes of between £60,000 and £120,000.
A report last month from the abrdn Financial Fairness Trust highlighted how Britain’s insecure jobs market and high housing costs are leading to the growth of a precarious middle class. These households are struggling to maintain a decent living standard on joint incomes as high as £60,000 a year. That compares with the median gross annual earnings for full-time employees of £34,963 last April.'

“It does seem that the only way to be on a middle income and doing OK at the moment is to be a Dink and living in the north.”

'Although respondents with children reported more precarious finances than those without, millennial childless couples say they barely have any disposable income either.'

Personally we am coping ok with a household income of £120k and still eat out/have a lot of city breaks, but I wonder if that is only because of our specific circumstances

  1. small 2 bed flat in zone 3 London so we don't have a car and where it is possible for DH to cycle to work. Would probably always stay in a flat even if income doubles so it makes more sense to stay in zone 3 if living in a flat.
  2. were able to live at DH's mum for 3 years while working in London and bought in 2019. We were able to overpay a mortgage on 2% interest during the pandemic and plough our pandemic savings into it which means the new mortgage rate isn't as painful.
  3. fertility problems so we are still DINKY and unlikely to have more than 1 child (am already 32 this year).

As a disclaimer i don't think the chancellor should cut taxes despite us all feeling the cost of living crisis as 40% of tax revenue comes from NI and income taxes so if they cut taxes, they would have to cut services and I have no desire to pay for healthcare privately in my old age.

But it feels very strange to read about people struggling in the news on our household income, probably means that the income threshold to be 'comfortable' (without very specific circumstances that lower your cost of livin) is much higher! Would hazard around £150k to £250k now. Basically we are going to be a hugely unequal society where only the top 5% can expect all the middle class fixtures and the rest of us have to pick and choose or live a life of penury and no luxuries i.e. car or property in expensive location; 2 children and no savings or 1 child and savings. Far luckier than those in the bottom 50% obviously but i am not sure how you can say you are middle class when the only reason you can afford to eat out and have nice holidays is cos you purposefully cut back on things people used to expect if you were doing semi well i.e. 2 kids in a suburban semi and a car on the driveway.

‘It’s all fallen flat’: households earning more than £60,000 on how they are struggling financially

Mortgages, bills and highest tax burden in 70 years pile on pressure despite healthy incomes

https://www.theguardian.com/business/2024/mar/04/middle-class-workers-mortgages-bills-tax

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CountAlmaviva · 05/03/2024 19:11

twistyizzy · 05/03/2024 19:09

I thought you went to private school and it scarred you for life?

I read that thread too.🤣
mmmm🤨

Goldenbear · 05/03/2024 19:12

1960swhatshappened · 05/03/2024 19:01

Crikey reading this thread makes me really understand how out of touch posters are in the real world! Can understand why my daughter avoids MN . What I find really depressing is that many posters are probably in their 30/40s and are so ignorant about how hard people work ,who can only dream of owning a property! Spending £2000 + on a mortgage and moaning about it !! Many people of the same age group are renting ,paying the same amount of money !
Really think using a MN expression …give your head a wobble is appropriate here !

For a start they don't own it if paying a mortgage but also who would you like to own these properties, would you like the very wealthy to own them, to build up their property portfolios, then we can all pay rent and you would consider that fair, an egalitarian system even? People wanting to own 'a' property should not be who you aim your disgust at! How long have you been on MN, is it longer than a few months I e the build up to tbe next GE because I really find it bewildering that you are surprised that middle class people post on MN!

LaCouleurDeMonCiel · 05/03/2024 19:15

Leah5678 · 05/03/2024 18:49

Don't take my comments personally lol they aren't directed at you more anymore that reads and disagrees lol

I've never met a single person who has been to private school (as far as I am aware) I know a lot of middle class people none of them could afford it, it's called "middle" class for a reason.
On Mumsnet it seems about half of the kids go to private school but that doesn't represent real life
Just saying

Boarding school is upper class, yes. Independent I disagree.

donteatthedaisies0 · 05/03/2024 19:17

PeonyFlush72 · 05/03/2024 09:52

Two adults both earning £60k bring home £7k pm net.

You can't buy a 4 bed house where I live for less than £450k and if you have little equity and didn't lock your mortgage rate you could be paying over £2k on that.

Basic bills including travel into London are £1500.

Childcare for a preschooler costs £2500, maybe you have a second one at school needing wraparound care?

There's not much left for food, social activities, holidays etc.

Every month you're a car breakdown / new boiler away from disaster and wondering why with a household income of £120k you are permanently thinking about money, can't afford a foreign holiday or a third child and have no savings.

See I'm always reminded off how in the 80s I think it was Malcom Rifkind told folk in the north that if they can't find a job to "get on their bike and find a job " .
I suppose the same could be said about down south , it just over heated and most well paid jobs went to the south , maybe folk need to think now , that they should move north .

1960swhatshappened · 05/03/2024 19:18

SmudgeButt · 05/03/2024 19:02

I've been dealing with a 90+ year old with an income of under £10k a year and mortgage payments (yes at that age) set up by her now dead husband that exceed £1k a month. Oh yes, that doesn't add up. Oh and there's those other minor inconveniences like food, and heating etc. Sorry not much sympathy here.

Exactly! Cannot believe how self absorbed people can be and tone deaf!

BIossomtoes · 05/03/2024 19:18

It was Norman Tebbitt who talked about “getting on yer bike”.

Goldenbear · 05/03/2024 19:18

twistyizzy · 05/03/2024 19:09

I thought you went to private school and it scarred you for life?

I went to private school until I was 12, I don't recall stating the reasons I left or that I was scarred for life, I went to a huge London comprehensive following that which was certainly challenging.

Goldenbear · 05/03/2024 19:21

CountAlmaviva · 05/03/2024 19:11

I read that thread too.🤣
mmmm🤨

I literally stayed that on the thread you are referencing not exactly a secret.

twistyizzy · 05/03/2024 19:22

Goldenbear · 05/03/2024 19:18

I went to private school until I was 12, I don't recall stating the reasons I left or that I was scarred for life, I went to a huge London comprehensive following that which was certainly challenging.

That's definitely a different slant than you have portrayed on the private school threads

Pinkfluffypencilcase · 05/03/2024 19:25

She also gets all adult education courses I would like to do but can’t due to cost, for free.
@Bunnyasmyname
UC doesn’t automatically entitle you to a free course. But level of education does. So depending on what you wanted to do it could still be funded.

harrietm87 · 05/03/2024 19:27

1960swhatshappened · 05/03/2024 19:18

Exactly! Cannot believe how self absorbed people can be and tone deaf!

It’s not either or though, is it?

If things are hard for people on high incomes then they are sure as hell gonna be harder for people on low incomes.

It’s not tone deaf to point this out. It’s actually important - as others on the thread have pointed out, traditionally the Tories have been all about supporting the middle classes. If it’s reached a point where even they are screwed over then we know the country is in a total mess.

Goldenbear · 05/03/2024 19:27

twistyizzy · 05/03/2024 19:22

That's definitely a different slant than you have portrayed on the private school threads

In what way exactly? I had to leave private school at 12, I said on the private school thread about the school being like Grange Hill. I think you are obsessed with my name, even on the private school thread you referenced me again about another thread. You seem intent on following me about to disagree with me and spout your right wing crap!

1960swhatshappened · 05/03/2024 19:31

Goldenbear · 05/03/2024 19:12

For a start they don't own it if paying a mortgage but also who would you like to own these properties, would you like the very wealthy to own them, to build up their property portfolios, then we can all pay rent and you would consider that fair, an egalitarian system even? People wanting to own 'a' property should not be who you aim your disgust at! How long have you been on MN, is it longer than a few months I e the build up to tbe next GE because I really find it bewildering that you are surprised that middle class people post on MN!

Have been on MN for a few years ,paying a mortgage is very different than paying rent…thought you would understand that ie property generally worth more when you sell it !
Have no problems with MC because we most definitely are but it doesn’t give MC a green light to be so tone deaf . It’s not a case that people who want to own a property a problem but for many people it is completely out of their reach …hence the original post ! Just a bit of humility shows empathy of how other people struggle 🤷‍♀️

twistyizzy · 05/03/2024 19:31

Goldenbear · 05/03/2024 19:27

In what way exactly? I had to leave private school at 12, I said on the private school thread about the school being like Grange Hill. I think you are obsessed with my name, even on the private school thread you referenced me again about another thread. You seem intent on following me about to disagree with me and spout your right wing crap!

Lol as a lifelong Labour/Green voter I'm hardly right wing.
No energy to stalk anyone just scrolling through this thread.
I referenced one single other thread where we had had a discussion and now I'm a stalker 😄

fluffykittens208 · 05/03/2024 19:33

Fernsfernsferns · 05/03/2024 19:05

I hear you. But it’s not quite as good as you imagine because:

one - tax paid is overlooked.

earn £120k a year and you pay and straight up £40k in tax and NI.

that’s a third of your income.

so someone earning at that level is supporting two or three other adults living on benefits.

so yes you’d have more income but not as much as you think, because low earners pay very little tax and often forgot how much tax high earners pay in total / as a proportion of their income (about 1/3).

two - most jobs at that level are in the south east. Where housing and other costs are high. So it doesn’t go as far as it might elsewhere. The poster above saying ‘move north’ overlooks that few people can get a job paying at the same level outside the south east.

three - if you are a mother to be able to do the high earning job you need a decent amount of high quality childcare. We went through a phase of spending £45k a year on childcare out of our net income.

its works for us because I enjoy my job not just the money it earns. And I love living in London. And having a nanny gives us the extended family experience of other trust adults loving and caring for our kids we don’t have with extended family.

and we are comfortable I’m not complaining.

But we still make choices and compromises. We live in a flat with no outside space for example. we didn’t have the third child we both would have liked, to keep the balance / trade offs around childcare costs (and future costs like university) / housing / commute length / pressure on job security manageable.

Edited

How big is your flat. I guess it fits a family of 4 and your nanny is live out? Sorry to hijack the thread.

I am trying to determine the bare minimum i need to decide where should i live and what I need to live comfortably as I don't want to overstretch.

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Pinkfluffypencilcase · 05/03/2024 19:35

Simonjt · 05/03/2024 18:56

What they really mean is “we’ve bought loads of shit we can’t afford, so please give me some money”.

I had colleagues with household incomes of around £120k who would plead poverty while having a car on PCP of around £400 a month, yearly holidays abroad, cleaners, manicures, expensive highlights, a seemingly endless supply of new clothes and frequent eating out. I was on £80k as a lone parent, so a high wage, I saved up for about 9 years and bought a flat in zone 1. They used to moan I could afford to do that as they thought I was on a low income and so in receipt on benefits thats how out of touch they were with actual real life. There was who moaned she never thought she would be struggling so much for money, she had just bought a brand new range rover!!!!

Yes it’s about different choices people make.
Cars v holidays v house etc

Strictlymad · 05/03/2024 19:43

Anyone can see themselves as struggling financially if they make financial commitments to their limits. High mortgage, car on lease, what they deem to be essential pricey phone contracts, cleaner, gym, sky tv etc can easily take your direct debits to a huge sum and leaving you struggling to buy food.
I deem myself to be comfortable, joint income of 45k. Live in herts, 2 kids. But we are comfortable cuz we live in our means and don’t make commitments to pay these monthly things

PeonyFlush72 · 05/03/2024 19:47

@donteatthedaisies0

I see your point, if you can't afford to live down south then leave and find somewhere cheaper and stop complaining...... and I'm sure plenty of people will have to do that.

But you can understand how people earning what on paper looks like a decent amount of money find themselves baffled that they can't afford to live and work and bring up 2 children.

Uprooting your family from the place you've lived all your life to somewhere you know nobody, have no support network, maybe one or both of you might need to find new jobs...... it's not easy.

Bigcoatweather · 05/03/2024 19:49

So many people seem to think that an income of £120k means a ridiculously high take-home pay. Factor in how much is given away in tax …. Income is halved. It’s a healthy income but it’s not like a lottery win once tax, mortgage, childcare, food and other costs are paid down South.
I’d love to move back up north, but with schools, friends, jobs etc…. Not quite that easy to just up sticks and move.

Goldenbear · 05/03/2024 19:50

twistyizzy · 05/03/2024 19:31

Lol as a lifelong Labour/Green voter I'm hardly right wing.
No energy to stalk anyone just scrolling through this thread.
I referenced one single other thread where we had had a discussion and now I'm a stalker 😄

No, on that thread you wrote about my posts in the past and my user name was familiar. On the Vat for private schools thread you are offended as you send you DC to private school, quelle surprise you don't agree with me so now you are on this thread, making personal attacks again. I'm not on this thread about private schools, I take issue with if you are a born and bred Londoner that this doesn't count as it is a playground for the rich now. I was pointing out that it hasn't always been that way and middle class people did live there, without help from inheritance. London comprehensives were like Grange Hill in many parts of London, I know because I went to one! On the private school thread this was brought up by me and I was belittled and mocked about it, I can quote if you like.

albaalba351 · 05/03/2024 19:50

If everybody leaves from London and moves somewhere cheaper - you will have both price rises everywhere else and nobody to pay for the overinflated state (and your benefits). I for one am sick to the back teeth of my life suffering to pay for ungrateful people's benefits, and I know for a fact that I am not the only one.

Dancerprancer19 · 05/03/2024 19:50

Universalsnail · 05/03/2024 09:33

Honestly, as someone who is stuck at just under 20k a year with 3 kids I honestly find this kind thing eye-rollignly rediculous. 60k for a family if down south is tight yes but 120k? Oh the life I could live with another 100k a year. I'm very tired of hearing people who are comparatively rich compared to me, (I appreciate 120k is not rich on the whole but comparatively it really is) talking about how skint they are.

Our 2 bedroom ground floor flat is £2400 a month. That’s why people feel poor.

LakieLady · 05/03/2024 19:51

Doseofreality · 05/03/2024 10:10

But if you earn an annual salary of £60k, you don’t take home £60k, you take home £44600.

i’ve seen people post on here about the Universal Credit Payments and some are getting over £2K per month plus their housing paid.

That £2k probably includes their housing costs, or significant health issues for someone in the household.

A couple with 2 kids would be entitled to a max of £1553.46, excluding housing costs and any ill health/disability elements. A third child would increase that by just under £270 a month, but only if the youngest was over 7 (2 child maximum applies to children born since April 2017).

Bigcoatweather · 05/03/2024 19:53

albaalba351 · 05/03/2024 19:50

If everybody leaves from London and moves somewhere cheaper - you will have both price rises everywhere else and nobody to pay for the overinflated state (and your benefits). I for one am sick to the back teeth of my life suffering to pay for ungrateful people's benefits, and I know for a fact that I am not the only one.

You’re definitely not the only one 💐 it sucks.

SarahAndQuack · 05/03/2024 19:55

101Nutella · 05/03/2024 09:47

I know a lot of people in that bracket who are struggling. All have children with childcare fees or school fees. It’s the inflation of prices which has eaten the disposable income along with remortgages.

our mortgage is going up between 200-300 pcm. And that’s a sensible where we bought a house only 2/3 of the value we could have borrowed. That 300 less a month plus 900 childcare and then weekly food shop inflation is the difference between going out for a meal/saving for a break somewhere and not.

TBH It’s the difference between having money for an unexpected issue eg new car tyre and having to put it all on a credit card.

No, sorry, 'school fees' is not 'struggling'.

Paying for private school is a luxury. A person who has chosen to do that doesn't get to say that they're struggling - they made a choice to splash out on something.

I do see there's an exception if you have a child who genuinely cannot cope in state schooling - which does happen. But it's rare - and even then, it is still quite a privilege to be able to pay your way out of state schooling.

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