I think a big factor is how that £60-120k is split and what comes off your salary.
We earn around 50k each and anything above goes in additional pension or we take family care leave so we retain child benefit. Non contributory final salary pensions and we already paid off student loans as we are in our 40s and had the smallest ones going.
Monthly net income is a little over £6.6k
I know a couple in the extended family who are about 15 years younger (so late 20s/early 30s). They have massive student loans & no non contributory pension. He is on 75k and she’s on £25 for a 3 day week. They don’t get child benefit. She’s stalled career a bit having kids in 20s and going part time but has good reason for it
Their monthly net income is around £5.6k
We live in a 5 bed terrace When we bought our house it was £275k and even with extra borrowing to extend it and improve it our mortgage is £1.3k on a long term fixed rate.
Their house (bought later) is a tiny 2 bed terrace (in central London to be fair) and was close to £500k. Their mortgage is £2.3k on a shorter and more expensive fixed rate (went up a lot when they renewed).
Our kids are done with nursery and childcare costs are maybe £300/month over the year including wrap around and holiday cover, which we need less of as I take some unpaid leave and have parents to help.
They have 1 at school and 1 in nursery and their costs are currently £1k/month for 3 days and it’s only that cheap as it’s subsidised childcare.
So after housing/childcare on same basic income we have double the disposable income they do. Biggest difference is we are older so cheaper house/smaller loan.
We know their finances in some detail as we helped with a tax matter recently where normally I’d have no clue about someone else’s money.
Anyway knowing that it doesn’t surprise me at all that while some people are very comfortable on a £100k income others struggle more. While some people undoubtedly it’s down to overextending for a lot it’s more that the same house costs a lot more now than 10 or 20
years back relative to incomes. Even my relative is lucky that they inherited money for a deposit or they couldn’t have bought in London at all for years. Renting is astronomical.
In our part of the country £100k is a significant family income and it will give you a lot of options. In some other parts I think you may still struggle at times (particularly when you have young kids). Obviously you’ll be better off than you would be on a much lower income in the mid-long term but it may be that short term, while both families have younger kids, you have no more disposable income than someone on a very low income.
On an individual level if you are on that kind of salary moaning about your situation suggests of a lack of awareness of how things are for people on the lowest incomes and it would be diplomatic to stick to discussing with friends in similar circumstances. On a society level everyone should be a bit worried if nurses, teachers, police etc who will often be aspiring to get to that level of income as they move into leadership roles are going to end up feeling like large areas of the country are unaffordable to live in.