To not spend all of Mothers Day with my children?

[SecondUsername4me]

We spend a lot of time together. Aibu to say actually, Sunday afternoon, I'm going to go spend it with my DM and have some cocktails and dinner? Time off from Mothering?

Dh is in full agreement that I should spend Mother's Day as if its a full treat day for me, with whatever that entails.

But then I see comments on the Mothers Day threads on here that all say about quality time spent with the kids etc.

They'll make cards at school, and they enjoy making me breakfast in bed (aka they make their dad make me a bacon sandwich ), and we will have til lunch together.

Kids are 9 and 11 btw.

I certainly wouldn't judge you for it. DD actually had a birthday party to attend on Mother's Day last year so I sent her off with DH and got the chance to relax on my own.

Sounds a great plan to me …..enjoy!

Do what makes you happy. I'm going to be on a different continent to my DC this year (didn't realise when trip was planned) but it's fine. I’ll see him when I get back.

• he is an adult with his own home/mortgage etc etc, I've not left a newborn and buggered off 😉

Sounds like a lovely plan. Your mum matters too!

Sounds great! I don't think the kids would mind at all- perhaps you could ask that they and DH spend the afternoon doing chores at home and making you a nice dinner

I’m jealous! Would love some day drinking haha

Someone in DS’s class is having their birthday party on Mother’s Day so I’ll be dropping him off all afternoon. The whole class is going so clearly people don’t mind it being Mother’s Day!

My dc will be at his dad's til after lunch. He offered to bring him back Saturday evening/early sunday... but am I fuck giving up the lie in and peace and quiet 🤣

Sounds like a lovely idea. Last Mother’s Day all I wanted was a hot bath in peace. DH ended up taking the kids to his mum’s for a bit - was bliss!

Oh that's the best day, don't feel guilty just enjoy yourself

I always thought mothers day was about having the day off! Do it!

I'm spending mine with only one of my kids, because I have to breastfeed her. Otherwise I would be leaving them both at home! (For a get together with my sister and aunt, planned before we realised it was MD)

Now I'm the other way around, I bloody 50 and I've spent every Mother's Day having to pander to my DM. Although DC always get me a card etc I've never been the one treated as if I'm the special one. I can't see it being any different this year, I just wish DM would consider that the day might be for me too!

Sounds great, go for it 👍

Sounds lovely! I’m going to be at work, so it’s sort of irrelevant to me anyway. If I had my choice I would be completely by myself with a book and a drink!

Yanbu

I’m not spending the whole of Mother’s Day with my kids and that’s fine with all of us. I think it’s good for kids to be reminded that mums have mums too and you’re setting a good example for when they are adults and hopefully have a drink with you too.

Why are you living your life by committee? Do what you want. It's no one else's business. The only caveat is if the children would be very upset but you can explain you want to spend time with your mum.