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Not sure if to stay in marriage

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New24 · 04/03/2024 17:22

I’ve been married 5 years but towards the end of last year I started having moments of being unhappy. It all started bcuz before we got married there was some infidelity in the relationship that my husband never admitted to and there were so many lies around the situation. It took me a long time to get over and I don’t think I ever dealt with it properly since I never got the truth. The mistake I made was getting married after that. Our marriage wasn’t all bad but there were times we would argue horribly and the way my husband would react affected my view of him. He has worked on his temper and it has gotten a lot better. However, there were instances I caught him lying during our marriage as well and I’ve spoken to him about it but I don’t think he gets it. The way he has been able to lie so easily makes it hard to know the truth sometimes and has affected how I feel. I recently got in touch with an ex who I feel like is the love of my life, but I’m also newly pregnant with my husband and not sure what to do. He is really excited about being a dad but all I can think about is my ex and how I want to be with him. My ex and I dated when I was in college and he wasn’t ready to settle then. Now he has spoken about how he made a mistake letting me go then and how much I mean to him and the future he wants with me etc. I see the difference in his behaviour now vs then which shows his growth. Is it unreasonable to leave my husband and not give our family a chance?

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Est1990 · 04/03/2024 17:27

You should leave your husband if you are not happy.

Leave in the hopes that with this Ex will be love&passion like in the movies probably not as you might end up very disappointed.

Sapphire387 · 04/03/2024 17:30

If you really believe your husband is the wrong man for you, you should leave him and seriously consider terminating your pregnancy, or you'll have to deal with him for the next 18+ years.

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