To start this thread so I can hold myself accountable?

[CantSeeTheDifference]

Hi, I started a thread in chat today about needing to lose a lot of weight (10 stones🙈😱) after 30 years of cpmfort eating due to childhood trauma.

I have lost 3 stones already in 6 months, and I am determined, for my physical health and my mental health that I am going to lose that whole 10 stone, even if it takes me 10 years!

Hopefully though it will take a little bit less time than that 😂. But if it doesn't, so be it, it's still got to go no matter the length of time! I'm absolutely miserable and have put myself at great risk of many obesity-related illnesses and diseases. I'm 35 and don't want to die young.

So, AIBU to start this thread to hold myself accountable and use it to come back to when needed? I could update it as I go along or come back in a years time with, hopefully, a wonderful 6+ stone loss update! 🙏

@CantSeeTheDifference 3 stones in 6 months is amazing.

I will cheer you on and follow your journey if that’s ok.

I need to lose 3 stone and have some health issues. I lost 8 stone post divorce but have put back on 2 and now and determined to lose the rest. Weight is such a complex issue I wish there was an easy solution.

well done on your amazing start and determination.

I’m doing Slimpod too - I’m finding it excellent. I respond really well to the science and seem to have stopped snacking overnight! Started in early Feb after a 6 month plateau with calorie counting. I’ve lost half a stone in Feb…

Hiut are my goal clothing item too! Either that or Howies. Maybe both. As my name indicates, I used to live near Cardigan.

On it here too. Lost 10kg since September (starting weight 135.6kg) and aiming for 108kg for my holiday in October.

For those on imperial that's 21 stone to 17 in just over a year.

17 is my pre-baby weight. Then I'm going to go and enjoy my holiday and then crack back on when I get home.

Been ill the last few days which I'm concerned might derail me as I haven't felt up to exercising much. Hopefully back on it soon!

Hi all,

Just reaching out because I am unfortunately massively struggling and have relapsed 😞.

At the time I started this thread, everything was going amazingly. I was doing my weekly exercise classes, I was prepping all my meals in advance, limiting my snacking.

4 weeks ago I was almost at 3 and a half stone and then something inside me changed and I started to slip. Gradually at first, so I would buy more snacks than normal, start to order takeaways once a week... until it snowballed and I started the daily binges and ordering crap every other day. Now I've shamefully put on a stone or so of what I'd lost and I fucking hate myself again.

My backache is back, my breathing is getting worse again. I feel like screaming and crying because I was doing so awesome and it went back down hill so fast. I don't understand why I stopped the progress and relapsed so badly.

Yeah, sure, I've had so much stress going on mainly with work, so much so that I found a completely new job and handed my notice in. I'm stressed about the new job, but this is no fucking excuse and I shouldn't have started bingeing again.

I could honestly kick myself. I was feeling so good about losing 3 stone, I worked so, so, so hard to lose it and then one month of letting things slip and I've undone a third of my my progress. Took 6 months to lost it and 1 month to put a third of it back on.

I can't even look at myself in the mirror without feeling depressed and tearing up. I don't understand why the fuck I do this to myself. I don't understand why I overeat so much and I really loathe myself right now and wish I was either born somebody else or not born at all 😞

Sending love and support OP. I hear you

Everyone that ever lost weight has gone through this, don’t let a bad month turn into a bad year.

Can you get some support to stabilise your nervous system now, get balanced and then start at it again. Stress obviously made you do this as it’s your coping mechanism. Please stop being so harsh on your self, you lost loads of weight!!! That’s amazing.

Have You access to an Employee Assistance Program at work? They can help you over the phone and it’s totally confidential also. If not, can you talk to someone and get some support in real life?

You are doing so well. Don’t give up on yourself x

@CantSeeTheDifference don’t beat yourself up OP 💐

Weightloss isn’t linear. There will be ups and downs. Sometimes you’ll take 2 steps forward and 1 back. & that’s okay.

Just don’t dwell on it for too long. And think, “tomorrow is a new day”. Bin the junk and start again, the only way is up.

Make an appointment with your GP. They can give you the extra support for both your physical and mental health. As binge eating is a disorder.

Well done coming back to this thread to get grounded again.

It's just really challenging, changing all your habits. You may have put some weight back on, but you are still two stone lighter than you were seven months ago. You can totally re-centre and carry on.

Going to the doctor is a really good idea, it's easier to change when you have support, social, psychological, or practical.

The good thing is you’ve recognised this, and want to change, now you can just get back to whatever was working for you before. You are where you are, but you can pick up where you left off last time.
As a PP said bin all the junk food and tell yourself you aren’t buying it anymore, repeat that to yourself and you can totally get back on it!

Honestly as cheesy as it sounds what would you say to a friend who was in this position. You’d be awful to be as critical to someone else as you’re being to yourself. It just worsens the spiral. Each day is new. You can do this OP.

I'm in. Had lost 3 stone before lockdown but put that and more back on. Have also stopped working so not so active.

I sort of follow Slimming World ie do their chips in an air fryer, little things like that

Hi everyone.

First of all, I want to thank the posters who responded to my rather dramatic rant last week 🙈. And I'm sorry I didn't reply back until now, I promise I was reading your lovely replies. I just didn't have the head space to respond until now.

Last night I had a massive binge and when I went to bed in the wee hours of this morning, I couldn't sleep because something inside me clicked and I suddenly stopped feeling sorry for myself and said "right, this can't fucking continue. You've had your month of bingeing, time to put your big girl pants on and get on with it, woman."

So when I woke up this morning, I felt and still feel more determined than ever. I'm sitting on my bed right now, making a meal plan for the next 4 weeks, so I'm as prepared as possible to stay on track and not order takeaways. I'm also going to make a shopping list filled with fresh fruits and veg and go out today and buy everything I need for my meal plan next week. I'm going to start listening to my Slimpods again, too, as I found they really helped my stay focused.

I "weighed in" today, and I actually have put on more than a stone. It's actually a stone and 9lbs. Do you know what?Whatever🤷‍♀️, it's done now, and I am going to undo it over time, so no point continuing to be angry and depressed over it. I'm still over a stone lighter than what I was at the start, so I haven't completely wrecked all my hard work.

I have taken on board what you have said in your last replies about everyone who has lost weight goes through this at one stage or another, and that if I were giving advice to a friend in the same situation, I would be a lot kinder to the friend than I have been to myself. You are all completely right. I will try and work on being a bit more patient and less horrible to myself. Thank you again for the pep talk.

If its any sort of progress, I actually feel very proud of myself for recognising that I have relapsed, coming back to the thread to seek support, and make a decision and take steps towards stopping the self-destructive behaviour of binge eating.

Next Sunday, I will come back to the thread, and I will have a wonderful update for you all. I can hardly wait already 😁

Happy to report that I have lost 3lbs 😊

A small dent in that 1st 9lbs gain, but a dent nonetheless.

If I lose another 3lbs next week, it will put me into the next stone bracket. Always get excited with that happens.

Fingers crossed 🤞

Another 2lbs off this week 😊 definitely got my motivation back. Long may it last!

Wow that's great! Keep going
By the way I love your writing style, I was going to suggest keeping a journal or doing a creative writing class as something to think about for the future. Any sort of Arts and Crafts can be so uplifting & good our wellbeing, you may find hidden talents OP