My DD aged 8 was sitting with me on the sofa cuddling up watching tv and my husband wanted her to come over to him to watch gladiators (that’s their weekly thing). She didn’t want to as was comfortable and he started getting angry with me and said I’m controlling. I told DD to just go there as I didn’t want a fight with him and wanted an easy weekend with no arguing. I calmly asked him how I’m controlling and this is what he said - “I tell the kids what to do all the time( aged 4 and 8), I tell him to eat more healthily” - the healthy comment was because he’s had medical issues namely his heart and it runs in his family, I asked him previously in the day to think what will happen to us if he gets more unwell and god forbid he dies, I just said to cut his drinking down and stop eating so unhealthy. I make all the meals but in between he eats so much junk that he’s too full to eat dinner so he skips it.
I was angry at this point and said I will no longer “control” him and he can do all his laundry, cooking and life admin and I don’t need to be concerned anymore. His response was he’s going to eat out all of next week so no need to cook for him.
I really struggle with him