Need handhold and AIBU

[OneSharpGoose]

I have COPD . Just moved to severe from moderate. I have a special birthday in 2 weeks and cruising to celebrate and have London visit booked with meal etc . These are both presents from DC and DH.
I have not felt well since October and rarely leave the house. DCs live 100s miles away and have own lives. DH is not a bad husband just unable to be tender or empathetic. I've got pneumonia and pleurisy and feel like cr*p The cough is never ending the pleurisy is cripplingly painful and now I have antibiotic tummy. I'm feeling very sorry for myself and if anyone else says "Ooh you need to get well for London" or "you'll be fine in time for your cruise" I think I'll scream. ( I can't. I don't have enough breath).Aibu to just want someone to tuck me up in my bed look after me and stop the pressure to get well so that other people can feel good? I'm sorry I know I'm ungrateful but I just want to be looked after. Just for once.

My dh isn't a comfort in any form either... Self care became my responsibility.. New pj's. New socks.. Coffee on my favourite cup. A cuddle with my ddog.
Here's an absolutely gorgeous girl who wasn't always well treated but brings so much joy to us you can have a virtual cuddle op...
Sorry you are feeling rubbish.... Here she is on the right. With her dd.. So a 2 for 1 pic op!!

Sounds crappy, OP. I’m not as unwell as you, but I’ve been more or less bedridden for the past few days and have nobody to look after me and it sucks.

No answers. Pity your DH isn’t more sympathetic. Is there anything you can do for yourself that will make you feel a bit pampered? Could you order something online that you wouldn’t usually?

Anyway, keep resting. I hope you feel better soon.

Oh I’m so sorry, that sounds dreadful. Is there nothing that can help you to feel comfortable? (I don’t mean to do the trips, just at home).

What on earth were there thinking when they booked these trips? Did you say something at the point of booking or are these ‘surprises’ or are you feeling much worse now than when were booked?

They’ll need to be cancelled and DC come to you and rally around. I’m sorry you are suffering OP 💐

Bless you, you deserve completely to be tucked up and looked after. Can the trip not be postponed/cancelled? Surely everyone would understand you are not well enough?

Thanks to all who took the time to reply and vote. I spent most of yesterday asleep or coughing but am feeling slightly brighter today. The London trip has been postponed to later in the year and I will be wheelchaired/ in taxis as much as possible so that is a positive. We are discussing with cruise company about the cruise but it looks like we may lose the whole £7.000 as my travel insurance won't cover it and it's too late to cancel . Thanks again.

I was going to ask about insurance. Did you declare all your medical conditions? If so you should qualify for payout if the reason for not going is declared.
I do not go abroad any more because my medical conditions make the insurance ridiculously expensive.