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Concert dilemma with friends

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Shellow · 02/03/2024 22:00

This is more of WWYD rather than AIBU.

One of my all time favourite artists recently announced they are going on tour. I’ve seen this artist before with one friend (friend A) who also is a big fan. Friend A has been ill recently, so not up to doing anything. So I asked another friend (friend B) if she would go with me, she said yes and nothing more said.
Then friend A asked me if I could go to the concert with her and said she thought she would be up to it by then. Of course I said yes and thought we could all go together even though both friends don’t know each other.
I could only get 2 tickets in the presale and as nothing had been discussed with the friend B, I arranged to go with friend A. It wasn’t cheap and I know friend B had loads of other expenses at the moment, so was hoping it might all be forgotten.
I felt bad, so I messaged friend B before the general sale and asked if she still wanted to go and she did. So I decided I’d also go with friend B on another night.
Both friends are super excited about the experience and now I feel terrible for the fact that I’m going twice with separate friends and they both don’t know about it. I want to be honest but don’t want to upset either of them as they might feel it impacts the experience if I’ve already been or know I’m going back the next day. I don’t generally go to concerts but have to make an exception for this artist, I think I just got caught up in the excitement. Would you tell the truth?

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TinySaltLick · 02/03/2024 22:05

Surely just say you wanted to go with them both as a three, but realised you could only get a pair of tickets, so to avoid letting them down you are going twice?

I think you are over thinking it - it is a nice gesture for all involved!

Cbljgdpk · 02/03/2024 22:07

I would tell them the truth or a condensed one that you committed to going with both and you love the artist so much that you were pleased to go twice. This is the kind of situation I end up in and I find that my friends know me well enough to know that I had good intentions.

Shellow · 02/03/2024 23:08

Thank you. Yes I probably am overthinking it! For some reason I feel dishonest, but they both know me well so hopefully they will know I was just trying to please everyone.

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