AIBU not to pay

[OhGingleBells]

An acquaintance (we get on well but only met recently) offered me some clothes she bought that didn’t fit her. Nothing fancy or expensive but pretty and very much my style and so I was pleased. Obviously I thanked her and offered to pay for them but she said no. When she gave them to me she said to take them to the charity shop if I didn’t want them. I don’t want to force money on her but I feel bad keeping them for nothing!

She gave them to you, you offered money, she said no. Stop over thinking!

She said she didn't want money.

If she'd taken them to the charity shop herself, they wouldn't have paid her either. This way, you get first dibs and if you don't want something, it can go to the charity shop through you.

She's said no. Respect that.

I wouldn’t worry but if you wanted to make a donation you feel comfortable with to charity then that might make you feel better. Not that I feel you should do that - just a suggestion.

Id Buy her a bunch of tulips and some chocolate but please don't feel bad x

She was obviously happy to give the clothes to you and didn't expect anything for them. If it really bothers you, maybe you could give her a box of chocolates or a bottle of wine when you next see her?

I'd probably chuck her a bottle of wine if she drinks it, but other than that I wouldn't worry.

Better that one of my sil who bought a coat for my daughter and afterwards ask me for the money. My daughter did not need a new coat, sil bought the coat because she liked it and it was on sale. I refunded her the price, wasn't much only £5 but it pissed me off. I will never ask someone for money for something they never ask in the first place. I always give chlothes for free to friends and relatives and don't expect anything in return.

She doesn’t want money! Maybe get her something she likes, like chocolates, flowers etc as a thank you.

This is such a non-event! Why are you still thinking about it, never mind asking the world what you should do? You offered, she said no. Conversation and thoughts over

Why not donate a reasonable amount of money to the charity they would have gone to? Doesn't have to be the full prices they would have been sold at, just something reasonable based on what you can afford and how much you like the items.

say thanks graciously, no need to buy wine,flowers, or a gift.
Next will be the mn competitive Thank you gifts. Wine,bouquet,unicorn feathers,trip to Dubai. Posters will regale ,with how if they’re given anything they reciprocate with a lovely handwritten note on vellum parchment and a bottle of niche perfume with chocolates

A lot of the time people want to give stuff away to someone who wants it. You've said thank you. So relax