My partner and I are expecting our first baby at the beginning of May. My partners best friend announced a couple of months ago that him and his fiance have booked their wedding for July and he will be having his stag do abroad in early June.
My partner casually dropped into conversation a few weeks ago that they've booked to go abroad for a few days for the stag do. He didn't sit down and discuss it with me prior, just said that they've already booked it. I'm not controlling in the slightest and had this have been a time where we wouldn't have a child to look after, I wouldn't have cared that it wasn't discussed with me. We have two dogs together and often go off with our friends individually for weekends at a time and it's never been an issue, but it's different now as we will have a child.
If I go over my due date, our child will be a couple of weeks old when he's due to go out. I live two hours away from my family, his family live locally. Although I get on well with his family, if I'm struggling after giving birth, I wouldn't feel comfortable asking them to come over and help me with looking after the baby and myself.
When I addressed this with him, he said he couldn't see how he's done anything wrong as it's only going to be for two days. Yes, I could go and stay with my family but I don't really want to be away from my home just to have some support when our child is so young.
I don't know what I'm more annoyed about, the fact he didn't see the need to discuss it with me first or ask how I felt about it or that he's happy to leave his newborn so young. If the stag had been booked before I found out we were pregnant, that would be a totally different story but it was booked when I was 6 months gone and he knows when our due date is and that there's a chance I could go over.
Am I being unreasonable?