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Friend accusing me of excluding her - petty drama?

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sandandsangria · 02/03/2024 16:08

This feels like what would be started in year 9 but nonetheless I'm experiencing it and don't know how best to approach it

A childhood friend (who lives nearby for reference) blew up on me the other day, we were travelling to our home town to see our parents and she completely blanked me on the bus and wouldn't speak for hours, then stormed off when we arrived.

She later sends a series of horrible messages saying she's not going on the girls holiday planned for my birthday in two weeks time because I'm constantly excluding her. She then sent a rant that more or less said I was the problem for everything, exclude her and am a bad friend basically.

I'm a newly qualified lawyer, so my working hours are obviously very demanding. Is it not implied that we're not going to be able to see each other every day like we did in school? I also invite her to every gathering or night out I go on, where she doesn't do the same when she goes out yet that never made me say she was leaving me out. If anything, any time we do get together it's because I asked her. I recently invited her to a brunch and she didn't bother to text back with yes or no. Yet I'm still being exclusive?

I feel like she's turned very bitter lately, I won some fairly good awards in the last year and she didn't congratulate me, I also got into a new relationship and I've always felt her resent that too.

My sister said I need to just move past it and start over, but I don't think it's fair to let myself take all the blame when she has portrayed me to be evil and I genuinely have never done anything on her?

How should I approach this?

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 02/03/2024 16:11

Have you asked her wtf? If you’re inviting her on all your nights out, how are you excluding her? And if that’s what she thinks, why aren’t you invited on all of her nights out?

CarrotOfPeace · 02/03/2024 16:12

You're a lawyer. Focus on getting your career established and don't worry about her. She's probably jealous or something stupid.

TheIceQween · 02/03/2024 16:13

She sounds a little jealous…

MadelineWuntch · 02/03/2024 16:14

Take your sisters advice and move on. It's not 'letting yourself take the blame' and being 'portrayed as evil', it's being a grown up and refusing to indulge in childish tit for tat with someone who clearly doesn't value you, or enjoy in your success.

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